A blonde man in blue underwear kneeling as he gives analingus to his girlfriend, standing in front of him.

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Reading time: 3 min | Last updated: 20 July 2025

Quick Facts

  • What It Is: Vertical rimming where receiver stands while giver kneels behind for oral-anal contact
  • Also Known As: Butler Position, The Deep Sea Diver, vertical analingus, standing rim job, upright rimming
  • Difficulty: Easy (perfect for shower adventures and nervous beginners)
  • Best For: First-time rimming exploration and spontaneous bathroom encounters
  • Why It’s Amazing: Only rimming position that works seamlessly in the shower while feeling less vulnerable
  • Common Challenge: Finding the right height angle when partners have significant height differences
  • Perfect Pairing: Dental dams and knee pads for safety and sustained comfort

Why Nervous Couples Actually Love This Position

Some of your hottest moments happen when you’re least expecting them. The standing analingus position is spontaneous, accessible, and ridiculously sexy in its simplicity. Whether you’re rimming-curious or just tired of needing an engineering degree to enjoy oral play, this vertical approach feels natural and thrilling.

The comprehensive guide to mastering this straightforward technique is coming soon. You’ll discover why couples who try this position often find themselves sneaking into bathrooms together more often, and how something so simple can feel incredibly intimate. The full guide includes every detail you need to make this your new go-to move.

What This Complete Guide Will Cover:

Getting Your Setup Just Right

  • Foolproof positioning for any height combination—no awkward crouching required
  • Wall support tricks that make everything feel stable and sexy
  • Shower versus bedroom setups and their unique advantages

Making Everyone Comfortable and Confident

  • How to ease first-time nerves without killing the mood
  • Knee-saving tips for the giver that actually work
  • The exact words that help shy partners relax into pleasure

Technique That Actually Feels Good

  • Tongue movements designed for this specific angle—it’s different from horizontal rimming
  • Where to put your hands for maximum impact
  • Rhythm secrets that build intensity without exhausting anyone

Safety Without the Buzzkill

  • Quick prep routines that feel like part of foreplay
  • When to use barriers and how to make them sexy
  • Hygiene hacks that eliminate anxiety completely

Taking It Further

  • Height-difference solutions that work for real bodies
  • Adding toys without turning it into a production
  • Smooth transitions to other positions when you’re ready

When Things Don’t Go According to Plan

  • Fixing awkward angles before they kill the vibe
  • Why this position rocks for some couples and flops for others
  • Building confidence when someone’s feeling self-conscious

The complete standing analingus guide arrives soon with every technique, tip, and troubleshooting hack you need to nail this position. In the meantime, check out our all standing sex positions or explore more techniques in our complete oral positions hub.

Your Most Asked Questions About Standing Analingus Position

Is this actually good for rimming beginners who are nervous about trying it? Absolutely—standing feels way less exposed than getting on all fours, making it perfect for easing into anal play without the vulnerability factor.

How’s this different from regular doggy-style rimming? The vertical angle hits completely different nerve endings while being more accessible and shower-friendly—plus no one’s knees are dying afterward.

Do we need to buy a bunch of gear or do extensive prep? Nope—just grab dental dams for safety and maybe some knee pads if you’re planning extended sessions.

What if my partner and I have totally different heights? Easy fix—the kneeling partner can adjust their position, use a small stool, or find the perfect crouch that works for both of you.

Can this really work in our tiny apartment shower? Hell yes—smaller showers actually work better because the walls give you natural support and everything feels more intimate.