Blonde in fishnet stockings giving a blowjob to a black guy in a classic position.

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Reading time: 4 minutes | Last Updated: June 10, 2025

Quick Facts

  • What It Is: The receiving partner lies on their back with legs apart while the giving partner lies or kneels between their thighs for oral pleasure
  • Also Known As: Traditional fellatio position, basic oral sex position, Basic blowjob position, standard BJ position, classic head position, missionary-style oral
  • Difficulty: Perfect for first-timers and seasoned pros alike
  • Best For: Building skills, marathon sessions, and making them forget their own name
  • Why It’s Amazing: You control everything – depth, speed, intensity – while getting the best view in the house
  • Common Challenge: Your jaw might need breaks during longer sessions (totally worth it)
  • Perfect Pairing: Remote vibrator for clitoral stimulation, flavored lube and silk restraints for added excitement

The Position That Launched a Thousand Fantasies

Picture this: your partner stretched out like they’re posing for a renaissance painting, and you’re positioned between their legs with VIP access to drive them absolutely wild. There’s a reason this basic blowjob position never goes out of style – it’s like the little black dress of oral sex.

This classic oral sex position cuts through all the fancy acrobatics and puts you exactly where you need to be. No weird angles that make your neck cramp, no wondering if you’re hitting the right spots. Just pure, focused pleasure that builds and builds until they’re gripping the sheets like their life depends on it.

I’ll never forget the first time I really nailed this traditional fellatio position. What started as a lazy Sunday morning “quickie” turned into a 30-minute session that had my partner literally speechless afterward. That’s when I learned that sometimes the most powerful moves are the ones that look effortless.

What Makes This Position So Addictive

The beauty of the lying down blowjob isn’t just the comfort – it’s the delicious power play happening. When you settle between their legs and glance up with that “I’m about to ruin you in the best way” look, you’re creating electricity that runs both ways.

Your Side of Paradise: You’re calling all the shots – how deep, how fast, how teasingly slow you want to make them squirm. You get front-row seats to every little gasp and tremor, plus your hands are free to explore or add some extra heat wherever you want.

Their Side of Heaven: All they have to do is lie back and let you work your magic. The view of you between their legs is pure fire, and they can guide you with soft touches or breathless whispers without having to worry about balance or positioning. Research shows that oral sex contributes significantly to relationship quality and individual well-being, particularly when both partners feel comfortable communicating their desires.

The night I really figured out this standard fellatio position, something clicked. Instead of rushing through like I was checking items off a list, I slowed down and actually paid attention to how their body responded. Game changer doesn’t even begin to cover it – suddenly I had them arching off the bed and saying things that would make a sailor blush. It was giving those viral TikTok “tell me you’re good at oral without telling me” vibes – pure confidence and skill on display. Once you’ve mastered this foundation, you’ll be ready to explore more advanced blowjob techniques that build on these core skills.

Setting Up Your Perfect Playground

Getting into this beginner bj position should feel as natural as sinking into your favorite couch. Here’s how to make it happen:

The Basic Setup: Have them lie back with their legs comfortably apart – think relaxed, not gynecologist appointment. You settle between their thighs, either lying on your stomach or kneeling, whatever feels right. The key is getting your head at the perfect height so you’re not straining your neck like you’re trying to see over a tall person at a concert.

Level Up Move: Want to give them a view that’ll make their eyes roll back? Try the elevated version – kneel between their legs and lean forward with your hips raised. It’s like giving them their own personal peep show while you get better leverage.

Comfort Hacks: Pillows are your best friends here. Toss one under your knees or chest, keep some hair ties within reach (or let them play with your hair – surprisingly intimate), and maybe grab some flavored lube because life’s too short for bland oral sex.

How to Make Them Forget Their Ex’s Name

This missionary blowjob position gives you the perfect setup to develop your signature moves. Start with the tease – trace your fingers along their thighs, plant soft kisses around the area, build that anticipation until they’re practically begging you to get to the main event.

Your Superpowers: Mix it up between your lips, tongue, and gentle suction. Watch their face – this angle gives you a direct line to read every reaction and adjust accordingly. Use your hands creatively with one working the base while your mouth focuses up top. Build a rhythm they can fall into, then switch it up just when they think they’ve got you figured out.

The Eye Contact Factor: Every now and then, lock eyes with them while you’re doing your thing. It’s like a lightning bolt of intimacy that’ll make their toes curl. But don’t force it – genuine heat beats choreographed staring every time.

When Things Get Real (And How to Handle It)

Jaw Getting Tired? Take strategic breaks and let your hands take over for a bit. Switch up your technique to use different muscles, and don’t be shy about telling them you need a breather. Trust me, they’d rather have you comfortable and enthusiastic than pushing through like you’re training for the Olympics.

Neck Feeling It? A thick pillow under your chest can be a total lifesaver. Have them scoot closer to the edge of the bed if you need better positioning. Never tough it out through actual pain – good oral is supposed to feel good for everyone involved.

Depth Drama? Keep one hand wrapped around the base like you’re claiming territory. Start shallow and work your way up based on what feels right. Remember, enthusiasm beats depth every single time – it’s about the heat you bring, not how much you can take.

Breathing Like Darth Vader? Nose breathing is your friend, and taking breaks isn’t cheating. Use those little pauses to catch your breath and maybe whisper something dirty – multitasking at its finest.

Keep It Hot and Keep It Safe

The Real Talk: Chat about STI testing before things get steamy – it’s actually pretty sexy when someone cares enough to bring it up. Flavored condoms can add protection without killing the vibe. Keep some mouthwash handy, and if you’re planning a marathon session, suggest a quick shower together first (bonus foreplay points). According to comprehensive research on oral sex practices, open communication about preferences and safety makes the experience more enjoyable for everyone involved.

Next-Level Moves: Play with temperature – alternate between warm breath and cool air, or try ice beforehand for a shocking good time. Use different parts of your tongue for variety, and don’t be afraid to establish a pattern then completely flip the script. Like Taylor Swift switching from country to pop, sometimes the unexpected change is exactly what they need. Or channel your inner Olivia Rodrigo and make it all about that raw, intense emotion – they’ll be saying “good 4 u” afterward.

When to Pull This Move: Perfect for skill-building, intimacy nights, or when comfort is key. Switch to our standing blowjob position when you want adventure

A Black man standing in the shower while his girlfriend kneels in front of him, giving him pleasure in the standing bj position.

chair oral techniques for tight spaces,

Silver-haired muscular man receiving oral sex from redhead woman in king on the throne BJ position. Man seated naked on teal leather armchair with one arm behind head while woman kneels between his legs sucking his penis.

or the lazy Sunday approach when Netflix and chill turns into Netflix and thrill.

Guy sitting on the couch while a girl lying down gives him a blowjob.

The BSP Bottom Line

The classic blowjob position isn’t basic – it’s iconic. This lying down setup gives you everything you need: control, comfort, a perfect view of their reactions, and room to really explore what makes them tick. Once you’ve got this down, you’ll have a go-to move that delivers every single time.

BSP tested and approved: We’ve put this position through its paces (tough job, but someone’s got to do it), and it consistently leaves both partners satisfied and coming back for more. The combo of comfort and control makes this perfect for everyone from nervous first-timers to seasoned pros. It’s giving main character energy – you’re literally the star of the show while they’re just lying there trying not to lose their minds.

Ready to expand your repertoire? Check out our complete guide to oral sex positions for more ways to blow their world.

Your Burning Questions Answered

Is this really the best starting point? Absolutely. You control the pace, depth, and intensity while staying comfortable. Perfect for building confidence and actually learning what drives them wild.

What if my jaw taps out? Totally normal. Take breaks, use your hands, switch techniques. Your comfort matters – they want you enjoying yourself, not suffering through it.

Do I need to maintain intense eye contact the whole time? Nah, that’s movie stuff. Natural glances up when it feels right are way hotter than forced staring contests.

How do I know I’m hitting the right notes? Watch their body, listen to their breathing, pay attention to their sounds. And don’t be afraid to ask – “Does this feel good?” is incredibly sexy when whispered at the right moment.