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Reading time: 4 min | Last updated: 20 July 2025
Quick Facts
- What It Is: Receiving partner backs onto giving partner’s lap while facing away, as giving partner sits in sturdy chair controlling penetration depth
- Also Known As: Hot Seat, Chair Riding, Seated Lap Dance
- Difficulty: Easy (though your thighs might stage a small rebellion afterward)
- Best For: Visual excitement paired with that perfect grinding angle that hits all the right spots
- Why It’s Amazing: Every chair becomes foreplay furniture while you control the show and the sensations
- Common Challenge: Finding your confidence with the “performance” aspect and getting the chair height just right
- Perfect Pairing: Water-based lubricant, vibrating cock ring, sturdy armless chair, and bullet vibrator
Ready to Make Your Chair Blush?
You’re straddling your partner on that innocent dining room chair, facing away while they get an incredible view of you taking exactly what you want. The Lap Dance position isn’t just about switching locations – it’s about discovering how something as simple as furniture can completely transform your pleasure game.
You know that confidence you feel when you’re on top and in complete control? This position amplifies that energy. There’s something deliciously naughty about turning everyday furniture into your personal sex playground, especially when you can grind at exactly the angle that makes your toes curl.
Our comprehensive guide to mastering this chair-based position is coming soon, packed with everything from choosing the perfect seat to finding that rhythm that makes you both forget you’re not in bed. The beauty lies in how deceptively simple it looks – until you discover the subtle hip movements and angle adjustments that turn good into absolutely incredible.
What This Complete Guide Will Cover:
Chair Selection and Setup Secrets
- Which chairs work best (and why your office chair with wheels is a terrible idea)
- Height considerations that make or break the experience
- Safety checks that keep you focused on pleasure, not potential furniture disasters
The Art of the Perfect Grind
- Hip movement techniques that target your G-spot effectively
- When to bounce versus when to rock for maximum sensation
- How to build rhythm that drives you both wild without exhausting your thighs
Visual and Sensory Mastery
- Angle adjustments that intensify every thrust and grind
- What your partner can do with their hands besides just holding on
- Playing with the “performance” element without feeling self-conscious
Comfort and Stamina Strategies
- Leg positioning tricks that prevent cramping during longer sessions
- How to lean forward or back to completely change the sensation
- Switching between active and passive phases to keep energy flowing
Advanced Variations That’ll Surprise You Both
- The “Lap Limbo” variation that brings your faces together
- Height difference hacks that work for any couple combination
- Incorporating toys and props that enhance rather than complicate
Troubleshooting Real Problems
- Preventing the dreaded “slip out” moment mid-grind
- Managing different energy levels and expectations
- Overcoming any initial awkwardness about being so visually exposed
This comprehensive guide drops soon, and you’ll want to bookmark it before your next furniture shopping trip. In the meantime, explore the full range of Cowgirl Positions to master your on-top game.
Your Most Asked Questions About Lap Dance Sex Position
Is this actually comfortable, or does it just look good? It’s surprisingly comfortable once you find your groove – the key is chair height and not trying to bounce like you’re on a trampoline.
How is this different from Reverse Cowgirl besides the chair? The chair completely changes your angles and leverage, plus you’re grinding more than bouncing, which feels entirely different on all your sensitive spots.
What if I feel weird about the whole “performance” aspect? Start with dim lighting and remember – your partner chose to be here with you, and watching you take control is incredibly hot for them.
Does this work if we’re different heights? Actually works better than bed positions for height differences since you can adjust chair height and your partner’s positioning easily.
Will my legs give out halfway through? The grinding motion is way less demanding than constant bouncing, and you can always lean back against your partner when you need a rhythm break.
You might also want to check out Reverse Cowgirl Position for similar visual dynamics but with different sensations and angles.