Reverse Missionary Position: Flip Sex On Its Head (And Love the View)

What Exactly Is Reverse Missionary?

Want to transform your bedroom from Netflix-and-chill to hot-and-heavy in seconds flat? Forget everything you think you know about boring missionary. Reverse missionary (aka upside-down missionary) takes that classic position and gives it a deliciously naughty twist.

Instead of your partner hovering over you with that intense eye contact, they’re on top but facing away – giving you a prime view of their ass and back while they penetrate you. It’s missionary with a cheeky upgrade that’ll have you both wondering why you didn’t try this sooner.

The name “reverse missionary” comes from literally flipping the visual aspect of traditional missionary on its head. While missionary was supposedly named after religious missionaries who taught “proper” face-to-face sex positions (boring!), the reverse version throws all that propriety out the window for something far more visually thrilling and physically intense.

Think of it as your regular missionary position‘s sexier, more adventurous cousin who’s not afraid to show a little backside. This killer angle is just one reason reverse missionary is a favorite in our missionary positions collection.

Why You Need to try Reverse Missionary In Your Life

Let’s cut to the chase – reverse missionary isn’t just another position to cross off your sexual bucket list. It delivers some seriously mind-blowing benefits that’ll have you rearranging your weekly sex schedule to make room for it.

That Angle Will Make You See Stars

When your partner faces away while on top, their penis or toy hits completely different spots inside you. That means G-spot or prostate stimulation that’ll have you gripping the sheets and biting your lip to keep from waking the neighbours.

I once had a partner who couldn’t get enough of this position because it hit her G-spot in a way that made her eyes roll back every single time. The angle is just that good – like finding a secret button you never knew existed that suddenly makes your whole body light up like Times Square on New Year’s Eve.

According to anatomical research published in Sexual Medicine Reviews (via PubMed Central), the anterior vaginal wall (where the G-spot is located) is closely linked to internal structures of the clitoris. This suggests that positions creating pressure in that area may enhance pleasure for some women.

The Visual Is Pure Filth (In The Best Way)

Let’s be honest – watching your partner’s ass while they’re pleasuring you is hot as hell. There’s something primal about that view that triggers something deep in your brain.

You get to enjoy the visual feast of their back muscles flexing, their ass moving as they thrust, and the overall sexuality of seeing them from this rarely-observed angle. It’s like your own private show with the best seat in the house.

The first time I experienced reverse missionary, I was so transfixed by the view that I nearly forgot to breathe. There’s something about seeing your partner from this forbidden angle that feels both voyeuristic and intensely intimate at the same time.

Power Play Without The Handcuffs

While your partner is physically on top, the dynamic feels different than regular missionary. Without the face-to-face intensity, there’s a subtle dominance shift that can feel thrillingly taboo.

It’s perfect for couples wanting to dip their toes into light domination without going full-on BDSM. The receiving partner gets to lie back and enjoy both the sensation and the view, while the giving partner gets to show off their assets in a position that feels naughtily anonymous.

The power dynamics here are like a sexual seesaw – the top partner may be physically dominant, but the bottom partner gets all the visual pleasure. It’s a mind-fuck that adds a psychological edge to your physical pleasure. As one partner told me after trying this position, “I never thought I could feel so in control while literally being pinned under someone.”

How To Get Your Bodies Into Backward Bliss

Getting into this position takes a bit of coordination, but I promise the payoff is worth any momentary awkwardness. Here’s how to nail it:

The No-BS Guide To Getting It Right

1. Start normal, end naughty: Begin in regular missionary with the receiver on their back. When you’re ready for the switch, the top partner pulls out.
2. Execute the 180: The penetrating partner pivots around to face the opposite direction (toward the receiver’s feet). No need for Olympic-level gymnastics – just a simple turn will do.
3. Straddle and settle: The top partner straddles the bottom partner’s body, legs outside their partner’s legs.
4. Find your target: This is where a helping hand (literally) makes all the difference. The receiver can guide their partner in, or the penetrating partner can reach down to line things up.
5. Brace for pleasure: The top partner should lean forward slightly, using their hands for support. This creates the perfect angle for hitting all those hidden pleasure spots.
6. Move your way to heaven: Rock, grind, or thrust – find the movement that makes you both lose your minds.

Make It Even Better (Because Why Not?)

• Lube up, always: The unusual angle can create more friction, so don’t skimp on the slippery stuff.
• Talk dirty: The lack of eye contact makes vocal feedback even hotter. Tell your partner exactly how it feels when they hit that perfect spot.
• Get handsy: Because the penetrating partner is facing away, the receiver has perfect access to their own pleasure buttons. Touch yourself – that’s what hands are for.
• Add ass play: If you’re both into it, this position gives the receiver easy access to the penetrator’s ass for some exploratory touching or play.

When Things Get Awkward (Because Sometimes They Will)

Can’t Get It In Right

Problem: You’re fumbling around like you’re trying to park a car blindfolded.

Fix It: Take a deep breath and don’t force it. Have the receiving partner guide manually, or try starting in doggy style and then having the receiver lie flat while the penetrator turns around. Sometimes a different starting position makes all the difference.

Your Bodies Are Fighting Physics

Problem: You’re getting leg cramps or back strain trying to maintain the position.

Fix It: Throw a pillow under the receiver’s hips to change the angle. It’s not just about comfort, Spine-Health notes that using pillows in positions like missionary can ease pressure on the lower back. The penetrating partner can also kneel more upright for better leverage and less strain.

It Feels Good But Looks Weird

Problem: You’re hitting all the right spots but feeling self-conscious about how your body looks from this angle.

Fix It: Remember that your partner is having too good a time to nitpick. Everyone’s ass looks different when they’re in action, and that authenticity is actually hot as hell. Dim the lights if it helps your confidence, but know that your partner is probably loving the view.

Spicy Variations To Keep Things Interesting

The Lazy Reverse

The penetrating partner sits back more, almost in a kneeling position, reducing the effort while maintaining the angle. Perfect for when you want the sensation but don’t feel like a full workout.

The Reach-Around Reverse

The penetrating partner reaches around to stimulate the receiver’s sensitive areas. This multi-tasking move requires some flexibility but delivers mind-blowing combined stimulation.

The Pillow Mountain

Stack multiple pillows under the receiver’s hips to create an extreme angle that can hit spots you didn’t even know existed. The higher the stack, the more intense the sensation – it’s like upgrading from regular cable to premium channels with every pillow you add. Your orgasm dial gets cranked to 11 when the angle is just right.

What To Try When You’ve Mastered Reverse Missionary

Once you’ve conquered reverse missionary, these positions offer the next level of backward-facing pleasure:

Coital Alignment Technique

If you’re loving the novel angles of reverse missionary, the CAT position offers another missionary variation that hits all the right spots with a focus on clitoral stimulation. It’s less visual but just as physically mind-blowing.

Butterfly Position

Another missionary variation that changes up the angle for incredible penetration depth. The butterfly position keeps that same “on your back” vibe but with your legs up on your partner’s shoulders for maximum depth.

Anvil Position

When you’re ready for something truly intense, the anvil position takes missionary to acrobatic new heights with deep penetration that hits spots you never knew existed.

Who Will Absolutely Love This Position

Reverse missionary hits different for:

• Visual pleasure seekers who get off on watching their partner’s body in motion
• G-spot or prostate hunters who need that perfect angle
• Couples bored with their usual routine who need a simple yet effective switch-up
• Anyone who wants to feel taken in a new way without complicated acrobatics
• Partners looking to add a touch of dominance play without getting into heavy BDSM

The BSP Bottom Line

Reverse missionary proves that sometimes all you need is a 180-degree turn to transform your sex life from “same old, same old” to “holy hell, that’s amazing.” The unique angle creates sensations that’ll have you wondering why this position isn’t talked about more, while the visual element adds a layer of eroticism that standard positions can’t touch.

Yes, it might take a couple of tries to get the positioning just right, but the payoff is worth every awkward moment. When you hit that perfect angle and see your partner’s body from this new perspective, you’ll understand why we at BSP consider this an essential addition to any sexual repertoire.

BSP certified: We don’t just write about these positions – we’ve put them through rigorous “testing” (you’re welcome) to ensure your bedroom adventures go from “that was nice” to “holy shit, what did you just do to me?” Try another BSP-certified position tonight and thank us in the morning.

Frequently Asked Questions 

Is reverse missionary basically just reverse cowgirl?

No, they’re different positions with different dynamics. In reverse missionary, the penetrating partner is on top facing away. In reverse cowgirl, the receiving partner rides on top while facing away. Both are hot as hell, but the sensations and control are completely different.

Will this position work if our bodies are different sizes?

Absolutely. The position is surprisingly adaptable to different body types. Taller partners might need to adjust where they position their knees, and pillows are always your friend for getting the perfect angle regardless of size differences.

Can this position work for anal?

Hell yes, and many people find the angle perfect for anal penetration. Just remember the golden rules: go slow, use plenty of lube specifically made for anal play, and communicate constantly. The receiving partner should always control the pace initially.

How do I tell my partner I want to try this without making it awkward?

Simple: “I read about this position called reverse missionary and I can’t stop thinking about how hot you’d look doing it.” Alternatively, just show them this article and point to the benefits section. Most partners are thrilled when you show initiative in trying new things.

Does reverse missionary feel better than regular missionary?

Not better—just deliciously different. Regular missionary gives you that intimate eye contact and full-body connection, while reverse missionary trades that for incredible G-spot or prostate stimulation and that ultra-hot visual of your partner’s back and ass. It’s like comparing chocolate and caramel—both amazing, just hitting different pleasure buttons.