Coital Alignment Technique: The Position That Finally Focuses on Her Pleasure

Why You Should Master the CAT Position

Notice how what works for you often doesn’t do much for her? That’s not your fault—it’s anatomy. But sticking with techniques that leave her unsatisfied? That’s definitely on you.

The coital alignment position bridges this gap by creating consistent contact where she needs it most. After years of exploration, I’ve found no position that so reliably produces those full-body, shuddering moments that make women look at you like you’ve just rearranged their universe.

With CAT, you become the partner who understands what her body actually needs. That reputation is worth gold.

Ready to transform “that’s nice” into “please don’t stop”? You’re in the right place.

What Exactly is the Coital Alignment Technique?

Let’s be honest—classic missionary position leaves most women wanting more. Way more. The Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) fixes that problem by turning regular missionary into something that actually gets her off. It’s missionary that finally pays attention to her clit instead of pretending penetration alone will do the trick.

This brilliant variation is one of our most effective missionary positions for couples who want to bridge the pleasure gap and finally prioritize her satisfaction.

Developed by psychotherapist Edward Eichel, this technique tackles the reality that only about 18% of women reach climax from penetration alone. Research published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy confirms this position actually delivers on its promises.

While the name sounds like something from a medical textbook, what it delivers is anything but clinical. CAT creates the perfect combination of penetration and grinding that hits all the right spots. When my partner and I finally got the hang of it, her reaction made it clear we weren’t going back to basic missionary anytime soon. The first time I watched her expressions change while grinding against me in this position, I knew standard missionary had been permanently demoted in our bedroom.

How CAT Improves Regular Missionary

Standard missionary is basically you doing all the work while she lies there hoping you accidentally hit something that feels good. With the coital alignment position, you’re both in the game, rocking together to create friction where she needs it most.

How to Do the Coital Alignment Technique (Without Getting It Wrong)

This position takes practice. The first time I tried it, we both felt awkward. By the third time? Game-changer. Here’s how to nail it:

Step 1: Start in Position

• Have her lie on her back with legs straight(ish) and slightly apart—not bent and spread like regular missionary
• Get on top between her legs, but don’t enter her yet (patience pays off here)

Step 2: Shift Your Body Higher

• Move your body higher up than you normally would—your chest should align with her shoulders
• This is key: your pelvis should be positioned directly above hers, with your erection pointing downward
• When you look down, you should see the base of your penis lined up with her sensitive area

Step 3: Enter at the Right Angle

• Enter her at a downward angle—you’re aiming toward her lower back, not straight in
• You won’t go as deep as regular missionary, and that’s actually the point
• The base of your shaft and pubic bone should press against her most sensitive spot

Step 4: Grind, Don’t Thrust

• Forget everything you’ve seen about rapid movements—this is about rocking, not thrusting
• Press your pubic bone down and move in small circles or forward-backward motions
• Have her push up against you as you press down—it’s a synchronized dance
• Maintain constant contact, especially where your pubic bones meet

Step 5: Find Your Rhythm Together

• Start slow and let the pressure build naturally
• Ask her what feels good—”harder,” “softer,” “right there,” or “don’t move” are all useful feedback
• Get into a groove where you’re both actively participating
• Focus on the consistent pressure rather than speed or depth

A friend who’s a CAT enthusiast told me it was the first position that ever made her reach climax during penetration. “It’s like he finally found exactly the right spot without me having to guide him there,” she said. That’s exactly the point.

Make CAT More Pleasurable: Tips That Actually Work

Technique Tweaks

• Pillow under her hips: This isn’t just for comfort—it tilts her pelvis to create the perfect grinding angle
• Slow down: Seriously, this isn’t a race. The slower you go, the more she’ll feel
• Pressure is everything: Focus on maintaining consistent contact with her sensitive areas, even if that means barely moving in and out
• Communicate: Tell her how good it feels when she grinds against you—this encourages her to keep going

Physical Upgrades

• Hard surface bonus: Try it on the floor with a yoga mat—the firm surface gives you better leverage for grinding
• More skin contact: Increased skin-to-skin contact enhances sensation and pleasure
• Strategic lubrication: A tiny drop of lube right on her sensitive areas can make the grinding sensation more intense
• Consider accessories: A vibrating ring turns this position into a guaranteed pleasure machine

Mental Game

• Eye contact intensifies everything: Looking into each other’s eyes while your bodies rock together creates a connection that’ll make her shiver
• Whisper exactly what you feel: Tell her how amazing she feels, how her movements drive you wild, or how her face looks when she’s getting close

Troubleshooting CAT: When Things Get Awkward

“We can’t get the alignment right”

Fix it: She’s probably too low. Put a pillow under her hips or grab her hips and pull her slightly higher toward you. If you’re significantly taller than her, you may need to bend your legs slightly to align your pubic bones.

“It feels like nothing’s happening”

Fix it: You’re probably reverting to standard thrusting. Slow down and press your pubic bone directly against her sensitive area. Ask her to grind upward against you. The sensation builds gradually—it’s subtle at first, then suddenly it’s not.

“My arms get tired holding myself up”

Fix it: Rest on your elbows or put your hands under her shoulders. You can also grab the headboard for leverage, which has the added bonus of looking quite attractive.

“We keep slipping out of position”

Fix it: You might be using too much lubrication. For CAT, you want just enough for comfort, but not so much that you’re sliding all over the place. Save the extra slippery stuff for positions where deep movements are the goal.

CAT Variations That’ll Enhance Her Experience

Reverse CAT

Let her get on top, but instead of riding you upright, have her lean forward and grind her sensitive spots against your pubic bone. She controls the pressure and rhythm, which means she can position herself exactly where it feels best. This is particularly enjoyable if you like watching her take control of her pleasure.

Legs-Up CAT

Have her bend her knees and plant her feet on the bed. This gives her leverage to push up against you more actively. The angle change also increases sensation for both of you. When she’s really getting into it, you can gently push her legs back slightly (not all the way to her chest) to intensify the pressure.

Side CAT

Roll to your sides while staying connected, facing each other. This removes the weight issue completely and can be maintained for longer sessions. The side-by-side position also lets you maintain eye contact while giving you both a hand free to explore other areas. If you enjoy side-by-side intimacy, our Side Missionary Position offers another delicious variation that keeps your bodies pressed together.

Why CAT Makes Women Actually Reach Climax

Let’s talk real biology here – her sensitive areas have over 8,000 nerve endings that standard thrusting barely acknowledges. The coital alignment position fixes this with some simple but genius adjustments:

• Your pubic bone becomes her best friend: That grinding pressure sends waves of sensation exactly where she needs it most
• You’re finally mimicking how she actually gets off: That circular grinding? It’s how she touches herself when you’re not around
• Multiple hotspots get attention simultaneously: You’re stimulating both external and internal sensitive structures at once
• Friction + natural lubrication = magic: As things get wetter, the grinding sensation intensifies

Don’t just take my word for it. Research in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that clitorally stimulated orgasms are linked to better sexual desire control — another reason to give the clit the attention it deserves. Science is sexy when it works.

My ex described her first CAT experience as “like someone finally found the radio station after years of static.” When you feel her pulsing around you, you’ll get exactly what she meant.

Who Needs CAT in Their Intimate Life? (Probably You)

The coital alignment technique is your go-to position if:

• You’re tired of her needing additional stimulation after you’re finished
• She rarely or never reaches climax during penetration
• You finish too quickly during standard movements (the grinding motion can help you last longer)
• You want to feel her climax while you’re inside her (trust me, it’s addictive)
• You’re looking for something more intimate than the standard approach
• Either of you has mobility issues that make more acrobatic positions challenging

If you’re looking for positions that prioritize female pleasure, the Coital Alignment Technique offers an effective approach to stimulating her most sensitive spots while maintaining intimate connection.

For those nights when you want more elevation and deeper sensations, the Eagle Position creates the perfect angle for maximum sensation.

And when you want to add even more intensity, the Deep Impact position provides incredible depth while still maintaining face-to-face connection.

The BSP Bottom Line

The Coital Alignment Technique transforms “I never finish during penetration” women into passionate enthusiasts. It requires more attention than your standard routine, but delivers spectacular results: her thighs trembling around you, simultaneous climax, and raw connection basic missionary can’t match.

The first time I perfected CAT with my girlfriend, her reaction was so intense it brought tears to her eyes. “I didn’t know it could feel like that,” she whispered. Two years later, it remained our go-to for our most intense connections.

At Best Sexy Positions, we skip impossible contortions and focus on techniques that deliver real satisfaction. CAT earns its throne for one reason – it works.

BSP certified: We thoroughly test every position before recommending it. Try another BSP-certified position tonight and thank us in the morning.

Frequently Asked Questions About CAT

How many attempts before CAT actually works?

Most couples need 3-5 practice sessions before they get it right. Don’t give up after the first awkward attempt—the learning curve is worth climbing. Our BSP testers consistently report that the third time’s the charm, when suddenly everything clicks and the experience becomes incredible.

Can CAT work for same-sex couples?

Absolutely. The principles of CAT (consistent pressure, grinding motion, focus on sensitive areas) work with fingers, toys, or strap-ons. It’s about the motion and pressure, not specific anatomy. One lesbian couple we interviewed called it “the position that finally let us both reach satisfaction without taking turns.”

Is CAT better than using a vibrator during regular missionary?

Different, not better. CAT creates a more full-body, synchronized experience that many women find more emotionally connected than adding a vibrator. That said, combining CAT with a slim vibrator? Now you’re giving her the ultimate experience.

Which feels better: “coital alignment technique” or “coital adjusted technique”?

They’re the same thing with different names. Some people call it “coital adjusted technique” to emphasize how it adjusts standard missionary, but you’ll be feeling too good to care about the terminology.

Will CAT help me last longer?

Many men report lasting longer with CAT because the grinding motion provides different (often less intense) stimulation than thrusting. If finishing too quickly is an issue for you, this position might be your new best friend. The slower, more controlled movements give you a chance to breathe and pace yourself while still pleasing her.

Is CAT safe during pregnancy?

Early pregnancy, generally yes. Later stages, you’ll want to check with a doctor and likely modify with pillows for support or try the side CAT variation. Pregnancy and intimacy can coexist with the right adjustments.