The Lesbian Tribbing Position That Makes Every Woman Crave More of You

What Is Tribbing? The Art of Getting Off Together

The first time I discovered proper tribbing, I nearly blacked out from pleasure. Now I’m going to show you exactly how to create that same sexy bliss.

Let’s cut straight to it – tribbing is when two partners with vulvas position themselves so their genitals can grind against each other for mutual pleasure that’ll make your eyes roll back. The foundational partner lies on her back with legs spread, while the active partner positions herself on top – either straddling the foundational partner’s thigh or aligning directly vulva-to-vulva. The key is getting your clits aligned so they can rub against each other through rhythmic grinding, rocking, or circular hip movements. The sensation of another woman’s wetness against yours is like touching a live wire – shocking, intense, and irresistible.

The tribbing position is perfect for partners who crave intense clitoral stimulation, intimate eye contact, and the raw connection that comes from direct genital contact. If you’ve been missing out on  orgasms or want to experience the ultimate in lesbian intimacy, you need this position in your life.

I’ve spent years perfecting this dance, and I’m about to spill everything you need to know to master the tribbing position – from basic moves to techniques that’ll have your partner begging for more.

Why Tribbing Position Will Ruin You for Basic Sex

When you nail the tribbing position, it creates intense pleasure that’ll make you wonder why you’ve wasted time on anything else:

• Clit-to-clit contact that’s pure magic – Your most sensitive spots literally rubbing against each other? Yes, please.
• Watch her face as she loses control – The visual of your partner’s pleasure while you’re feeling yours is an insane turn-on
• Every inch of skin touching – The full-body connection creates intense sensations that penetration can’t replicate
• You’re both in charge – Take turns leading the grind or find that perfect sync together
• Raw, primal connection – There’s something deeply carnal about this much direct contact

The night I discovered the perfect angle for grinding against my partner, we both came within minutes. The intensity of feeling her wetness mixing with mine while watching her eyes flutter shut is burned into my memory as one of the hottest experiences of my life. The room was filled with nothing but heavy breathing, the subtle sound of skin sliding against slick skin, and occasional gasps when one of us hit just the right spot.

The beauty of the vulva is its 8,000+ nerve endings concentrated right where you need them. According to experts, the clitoris alone contains more nerve endings than any other part of the human body. Tribbing puts all those nerve endings in direct conversation with your partner’s equally sensitive spots. Your bodies create their own rhythm of pressure and release that feels uniquely intimate.

Benefits of the Tribbing Position

Before we dive into the juicy details, let’s talk about why the tribbing position deserves a prime spot in your sexual repertoire:

• Mutual pleasure – Unlike some positions where one person does most of the work, tribbing creates simultaneous stimulation for both partners
• Intensely intimate – The full-body contact and eye connection creates a powerful emotional bond
• Perfect for squirters – When she hits that perfect angle and pressure, tribbing can trigger intense, wet orgasms
• Versatile for all bodies – Can be adapted for different body sizes, flexibilities, and preferences
• Builds sexual confidence – Taking control of your pleasure this way is empowering as hell

How To Trib Like a Goddess

Alright, gorgeous – ready to rock her world with some seriously skilled tribbing? Here’s exactly how to make it happen (and trust me, I’ve done my homework on this one):

Prep For Success

Before you dive into tribadism techniques, set the stage for pleasure that’ll have you both moaning:

• Trim those nails, honey – Sharp edges near sensitive bits? That’s a hard no. Keep them short and smooth.
• Stretching isn’t just for the gym – Tribbing uses muscles you didn’t know you had
• Lube, lube, and more lube – Even if you’re soaking wet, trust me on this one. Like Cardi B says, “wet ass pussy” – but make it wetter.
• Talk dirty (and practical) – “I want to feel your pussy against mine” is both hot and helpful guidance
• Keep health a priority – The NHS provides essential sexual health guidance for lesbian and bisexual women to keep you and your partner safe during intimate moments

Reality Check: Don’t expect to nail this on the first try. Like learning to drive stick shift, it takes practice to find your rhythm. But once you do? Game changer.

BSP Insider Tip: Keep a towel nearby. Things are about to get deliciously messy – the kind of wet that makes you wonder if you’ll need to flip the mattress afterward. Waterproof sheets or a specially designed sex blanket can be a game-changer for tribbing sessions.

Position Yourselves for Maximum Tribbing Pleasure

Listen up, because I’m about to spill the secrets that turned me from a tribbing amateur into someone who can make her partner come just from the right grinding angle:

Pussy-to-Pussy Grinding

The receiving partner lies back with knees bent and feet flat on the bed. The active partner lies on top in a modified missionary position, but instead of penetration, she aligns her vulva directly against the receiving partner’s vulva. The active partner controls the grinding motion by moving her hips up and down or in circles.

Thigh Riding Variation

The receiving partner lies back with one leg extended. The active partner straddles that thigh, positioning her vulva along the length of the receiving partner’s thigh while the receiving partner’s vulva presses against the active partner’s thigh or hip bone. Both partners can grind and create mutual stimulation. This variation is perfect for building up to more intense tribbing positions.

The Scissors

Both partners lie on their sides facing each other. Each partner slides one leg under the other’s leg and one leg over, creating an interlocked “scissor” position. Your vulvas press together in the center where your legs cross. Both partners can thrust their hips toward each other for mutual grinding. This position requires some flexibility but delivers intense sensations once you nail the alignment. If you love this interlocked grinding action, you’ll want to explore our detailed scissors position techniques for even more advanced variations.

Advanced Gymnastic Tribbing

The receiving partner lies on their back with legs raised high in the air. The active partner faces them and leans forward into those raised legs, gently pushing them back toward the receiving partner’s ears. Both partners can now grind their pelvic bones and vulvas together with direct, intense contact since the legs are completely out of the way. This position requires good flexibility but delivers incredibly close grinding contact. Pro-tip: Stretch beforehand – your hamstrings will thank you!

Master These Tribadism Techniques

The secret to tribbing isn’t just position – it’s how you move (think Shakira’s hips but with a very specific purpose):

• The Slow Circle – Grind your hips in deliberate circles, gradually increasing pressure like you’re trying to start a fire between your bodies
• The Slide and Glide – Use plenty of lube and slide your vulva up and down against hers, creating your own rhythm with your most sensitive parts
• Side-to-Side Sweetness – Shift your hips laterally to hit different parts of your clits, finding those hidden sweet spots that make her gasp
• Pressure Play – Alternate between feather-light teasing and firm, deliberate pressure that builds like a crescendo
• Full-Body Roll – Create a rolling motion that starts at your hips and moves through your entire body, like a wave of pleasure that connects you from core to fingertips

BSP Truth Bomb: Finding the perfect pressure is everything.

Start gentle and ramp up until you find that sweet spot where her breathing changes and her nails dig into your skin. That’s when you know you’re hitting it right.

BSP Position Hack: For next-level sensation, try the “Lock and Load” – once you find that perfect alignment where both your clits are making contact, tense your pelvic floor muscles (like you’re stopping the flow of pee) while grinding. The increased blood flow and tension will intensify everything and might send you both over the edge simultaneously.

Pro Tip: You’ll know you’ve found the right spot when she makes that face – you know the one. Eyes rolling back, mouth slightly open, like she just tasted the best thing ever. That’s your GPS coordinates right there.

Talk It Through

Nobody’s a mind reader in bed, and tribbing requires communication that’s as hot as it is helpful:

• Direct her body – “Shift up a little… right there” (when her eyes suddenly widen, stay exactly there)
• Guide with your hands – Grab her hips and show her exactly how you want her to move
• Read her responses – When her breathing gets shallow and her grip tightens, you’re on the right track
• The magic question – “How does this feel?” can lead to better orgasms, period.
• Be brutally honest – If something’s not working, speak up. Your pleasure matters too.

Effective communication about pleasure builds stronger connections both in and out of the bedroom. Professional relationship counselors emphasize that open communication is essential for lesbian couples to build the trust and intimacy that makes incredible sex possible.

Grinding Glitches: Quick Fixes for Tribbing Challenges

Even the hottest positions sometimes need troubleshooting. Here’s how to overcome common tribbing challenges without killing the vibe:

Body Alignment Issues

Problem: Your bodies don’t seem to fit together quite right.

Solution: Get creative with pillows under hips, shoulders, or wherever needed. Don’t hesitate to use your hands to guide your vulvas together – it’s not just practical, it’s also hot as hell.

The Thigh Burn

Problem: Your muscles start screaming before your orgasm builds.

Solution: Switch positions when fatigue hits. The person on top usually works harder, so trade places when needed. Think of it like interval training – but way more fun and with orgasms as your reward.

The Friction Dilemma

Problem: Too much friction turning pleasure into pain.

Solution: When in doubt, add more lube. Keep it within arm’s reach because you’ll need to reapply. Remember: wetter is better for tribbing. If you don’t sound like you’re stirring mac and cheese, you need more lube.

Rhythm Struggles

Problem: You can’t quite find a flow that works for both of you.

Solution: Let one person lead until you find your groove. Think of it like that TikTok dance everyone’s trying to learn – one person leads, the other follows, then suddenly you’re both in sync and it’s magic. The bottom partner can grab the top’s hips and guide their movement to show exactly what feels good.

Level-Up Your Tribbing Game

Once you’ve got the basics down, here’s how to enhance your vulva grinding experience:

Add Some Extra Spice

• Vibrator between you – A small, flat vibrator between your vulvas will have you both shaking with pleasure
• Reach around – Use your fingers to tease her nipples or ass while grinding
• Grab and guide – Hold her ass and control her movements against you
• Silky secrets – Try tribbing with silky panties still on for a different sensation that’ll make your toes curl

• Switch up the power – When you want to take control in a different way, queening position offer the perfect transition from mutual grinding to dominant pleasure

Signature Tribbing Moves Worth Mastering

Take your clitoral grinding position play to the next level with these variations that I personally swear by:

The Lap Dance Grind: The receiving partner sits cross-legged on the bed or floor. The active partner faces her and straddles her lap, wrapping her legs around the receiving partner’s waist. Both partners’ vulvas press together in this seated position, and the active partner can grind her hips forward and back or in circles while maintaining intimate eye contact.

The Power Position: The receiving partner lies back with legs spread wide and knees bent. The active partner kneels between her legs, then leans forward so her vulva aligns with the receiving partner’s vulva. The active partner supports her weight on her hands (like a plank position) and controls all the grinding motion by moving her hips.

The Pillow Princess Upgrade: Place a firm pillow or wedge under the receiving partner’s hips while she lies on her back. This tilts her pelvis upward, creating the perfect angle for the active partner to align their vulvas. The elevation makes clit-to-clit contact much easier to achieve and maintain.

I’ll never forget the first time I tried the Pillow Princess Upgrade with a partner. We’d been struggling to find the right angle until we added that lift – suddenly everything aligned perfectly, and the sensation was so intense I actually saw stars. We both finished within minutes and couldn’t stop shaking afterward. The sheets were destroyed, but it was absolutely worth it.

The BSP Bottom Line on Tribbing Position

Let’s not mince words here – tribbing isn’t just another position. It’s an experience that combines physical intensity with raw intimacy in a way few other activities can match. The skin-to-skin contact, the visual of your partner’s pleasure, and the synchronized rhythm create a sexual connection that’s uniquely powerful.

I’ve had partners tell me they’ve never felt more connected than when we were tribbing – there’s something about the vulnerability of being completely exposed while sharing such direct pleasure that creates an intense bond, not to mention orgasms from direct clitoral stimulation that’ll leave you shaking like you just saw your celebrity crush.

Whether you’re new to vulva-to-vulva pleasure or looking to perfect your grinding game, remember that great tribbing is about communication, lubrication, and finding the angles that work for your unique bodies. And like any skill worth having, it gets better with practice – so don’t be discouraged if your first attempts involve more giggles than gasps.

Ready to expand your lesbian pleasure repertoire beyond tribbing? Our comprehensive lesbian sex guide covers everything from intimate foreplay techniques to advanced positions that’ll make her melt in your arms. When you’re ready to explore even more mutual pleasure positions, you’ll find detailed guides that complement your tribbing skills perfectly.

Now go forth and grind your way to glory – your clitoris will thank you for it.

BSP certified: We don’t just write about these positions – we’ve put them through rigorous “testing” (you’re welcome) to ensure your bedroom adventures go from “that was nice” to “holy hell, what did you just do to me?” Try another BSP-certified position tonight and thank us in the morning.

When you’re ready to expand your lesbian position repertoire, we recommend exploring other mutual pleasure techniques like lesbian 69 positions that offer similar intimate connection but with oral focus – providing a delicious contrast to tribbing’s grinding approach.

Frequently Asked Questions About Tribbing Position

Is the tribbing position only for lesbians? Hell no! This position is for anyone with a vulva who wants to experience it, regardless of how you identify. The pleasure doesn’t discriminate, and neither should you. Some straight women even enjoy this with their female friends during threesomes or experimental play.

Can you actually orgasm from tribbing position? Absolutely! Many women report incredibly intense orgasms from tribbing because it provides direct clitoral stimulation – which is how most vulva-owners reach climax anyway. The added arousal of feeling your partner’s pleasure simultaneously can make these orgasms particularly powerful.

What’s the real difference between tribbing and scissoring? Tribbing is the overall act of vulva-to-vulva contact, while scissoring is just one specific position (where your legs interlock like scissors). It’s like how all thumbs are fingers, but not all fingers are thumbs. Scissoring gets all the attention, but it’s actually one of the more challenging tribbing positions.

What tribadism techniques work best for first-timers? If you’re new to tribbing, start with the Classic Grind where one partner lies back and the other straddles their thigh. This gives the top partner control over pressure and angle while maintaining stability. Use plenty of lube, communicate constantly, and focus more on finding what feels good than on “doing it right.” The simplest movements – slow grinding in circles or gentle rocking – often create the most pleasure for beginners.