Crab Sex Position: The Bendy Move That Turns Good Sex Into Great Sex

Not Your Basic Cowgirl: The Position That Hits Different

Want to see your partner’s face change when they realize what’s about to happen? The crab sex position isn’t just another woman-on-top variation—it’s what happens when you take familiar territory and tilt it until everything feels new.

Think of it like this: if regular cowgirl is your favorite comfortable chair, the crab position is like discovering that same chair reclines in ways you never knew were possible. It’s giving major “plot twist” energy—like when everyone thought they knew how The Sixth Sense would end.

What Actually Happens to Your Body

Let’s cut through the mystery—this position has nothing to do with actual crabs (thankfully). The crab position gets its name from how your body creates this beautiful arch: you’re on top, kneeling and facing your partner, then leaning back on your hands while they keep their legs together underneath you.

This leaning back cowgirl variation creates an angle that changes everything. You’re combining the depth of doggy style with the control of being on top. It’s like someone figured out how to hit multiple sweet spots at once.

The first time I tried this with a particularly well-endowed partner, I made a sound I didn’t know I could make. Not performative—pure surprise at how different it felt when they reached spots that regular positions just miss. This supported woman on top position gives you complete control over exactly how deep they go, while the backward lean creates G-spot pressure that makes your toes curl.

It’s like that TikTok trend where people discover they’ve been doing everyday things wrong their whole lives—except this revelation involves way better orgasms.

Why The Crab Position Changes Everything

This deep penetration cowgirl position delivers sensations that make other positions feel basic by comparison:

Their view becomes something special — They get to see your entire body while you take your pleasure like you own the place

The penetration angle works differently — Your G-spot gets targeted in a way that might catch you off guard

You control every detail — Depth, speed, and rhythm are yours to decide

It creates natural grip — The angle tightens things up in all the right ways

Unlike the standard cowgirl position, where you’re sitting upright having a conversation, this reclining woman on top position shifts everything. The first time I experienced it, the pressure against my G-spot was so different I actually said “oh wow” loud enough that my partner grinned like they’d just figured something out.

Like that iconic scene in Dirty Dancing where Jennifer Grey finally nails the lift—sometimes you need to lean back and trust the process to find something incredible.

Research from the Sexual Health Research Lab in Canada demonstrates that flexibility in sexual approaches—both physical and mental—correlates with greater sexual well-being and satisfaction for all partners involved.

How to Master the Crab Position Safely

Let’s be honest: this position comes with some things to consider if you rush into it. Here’s how to do it safely:

1. Start in familiar territory: Have your partner lie flat on their back while you straddle them normally, facing them. Get comfortable in regular cowgirl first.
2. Connect and settle in: Guide them inside you while you’re still upright. Let your body adjust before attempting any acrobatics.
3. Lean back slowly: Take your time leaning backward, placing your hands behind you for support. Think of it like easing into a hot bath, not jumping in.
4. Check in with your partner: Ask if the angle feels good or if it’s creating any strain. Their anatomy isn’t designed to bend backward, so adjust if they’re uncomfortable.
5. Find your balance: Once you’re leaning back comfortably, with your weight supported by your hands, you can adjust your leg positioning. Do what feels stable.
6. Start with gentle movements: Try rocking or grinding at first. Small circles or gentle back-and-forth motion will feel good while you both get comfortable.

Real talk: Communication matters a lot in this position. One rushed move before you’ve found the right angle could end your evening with an awkward story instead of great sex.

Crab Position Variations

Once you’ve mastered the basic crab, here are variations to try:

Supported Crab 

This variation is actually very similar to the cradle position, which offers the same comfortable support with slightly different positioning. Perfect when your triceps start shaking but you’re not ready to stop.

Half Crab 

Keep one leg bent in traditional cowgirl while extending the other. This hybrid gives you more stability while still providing that different angle.

Advanced Crab aka Tug of Love

For those with yoga experience, try placing your hands further back, increasing the arch. This deepens penetration even more—but go slow and communicate constantly. When you’ve mastered this extreme backward lean, you’re just one smooth move away from the tug of love position, where your partner can actually help support your arch while pulling you deeper onto them by holding your hands. 

The Challenges of Getting Crabby

Flexibility Requirements

This position needs reasonable flexibility from the top partner. Health Canada emphasizes that sexual health integrates physical, emotional, and cognitive aspects of well-being—and physical flexibility plays a crucial role in expanding your intimate repertoire safely. Don’t force your body into positions it’s not ready for.

Anatomical Strain Concerns

The angle puts pressure on the penetrating partner’s anatomy. Every person’s equipment works differently—move slowly and communicate constantly.

Arm Fatigue

Supporting your upper body weight gets tiring quickly. Be ready to switch positions when your muscles start complaining.

Other Cowgirl Variations to Try

If the crab position feels too challenging right now, there are other cowgirl positions that feel great:

• Amazon – A squatting variation that hits deep spots
• Betty Rocker  – Great for clitoral stimulation
• Reverse Cowgirl  – Face away for different sensations

Ready to Get Crabby? The BSP Bottom Line

The crab position isn’t for sexual beginners, but it’s worth trying when you want something that feels different from everything else you’ve done. This combination of deep penetration, G-spot stimulation, and visual appeal makes it worth working through the initial learning curve.

Yes, it requires some flexibility and careful communication. But the different sensations and the look of surprise on your partner’s face when you lean back and take control? Worth the effort.

This position works beautifully for all gender combinations too—whether you’re using natural equipment or a quality strap-on, the mechanics remain the same. Just ensure everything is secure and communication stays open.

BSP certified: At Best Sexy Positions, we don’t just write about these positions—we’ve researched what makes them work in real bedrooms with real people having real sex. Try it tonight and see what you’ve been missing.

Frequently Asked Questions About the Crab Position

Is the crab position risky for the penetrating partner’s anatomy?

It can be if you’re not careful. Always move slowly, communicate constantly, and stop immediately if there’s any discomfort. The penetrating partner’s anatomy isn’t designed to bend backward, so find the angle that works without strain.

How do I know if I’m flexible enough for this position?

If you can comfortably lean back on your hands while sitting on the floor, you likely have enough flexibility. However, the best way to find out is to try it gradually during actual intimacy.

Can I use the crab position with a strap-on?

Absolutely! It’s often easier with a strap-on because you don’t have to worry about anatomical strain. Just ensure the harness is secure.

What if my arms get tired too quickly?

That’s completely normal! Try the supported variation where you lean against your partner’s bent legs, or simply switch positions when fatigue sets in.

How can I make this position even better?

Add a bullet vibrator like the Satisfyer Pro 2 for clitoral stimulation, or try a vibrating cock ring like the We-Vibe Pivot for dual pleasure. The combination of deep penetration, G-spot pressure, and vibration can create those full-body orgasms that leave you feeling amazing.

Is the crab position good for orgasm?

Yes, it really is. The angle targets your G-spot well while giving you complete control over depth and rhythm. It’s basically the Beyoncé of sex positions—looks incredible and delivers every single time.

How do I avoid hurting my partner in this position?

Communication is key. Start with a very slight backward lean and ask how it feels before going further. Move slowly, avoid bouncing motions (use grinding instead), and listen carefully to your partner.