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Reading time: 3 minutes | Last Updated: July 11, 2025
Quick Facts
- What It Is: Partners sit facing each other with legs extended and intertwined, both leaning back on their hands for support during penetration looking at each other
- Difficulty: Intermediate (requires arm strength and coordination, but easier than you’d think)
- Best For: Couples wanting mutual control with intense eye contact and unique grinding sensations
- Why It’s Amazing: Both partners actively participate in the rhythm while maintaining intimate face-to-face connection
- Common Challenge: Building arm strength to sustain the position and coordinating your movements together
- Perfect Pairing: Quality lube, wrist and arms support cushions, and taking breaks to switch to other positions
Ready for Something Different?
The Spider Position transforms ordinary sex into a coordinated dance of pleasure. Picture this: you’re sitting face-to-face with your partner, legs intertwined like puzzle pieces, both leaning back on your hands while you move together in perfect rhythm.
This isn’t just another position to check off your list – it’s about creating a unique connection where both partners actively control the pace and depth. The sitting angle hits different spots than traditional positions, while the eye contact keeps you intimately connected throughout.
When you master the coordination, you’ll discover why couples who try this often make it their secret weapon for intense, connected sex. If you’re new to seated positions, start with the Lotus Position to build your foundation – it’s like Spider’s gentler, more accessible cousin that teaches you the basics of coordinated movement and intimate connection.
We’re putting the finishing touches on the most comprehensive guide to this intimate technique. The Spider Position isn’t just another position guide – it’s your roadmap to mastering one of the most satisfying seated techniques that exists.
This position creates sensations most couples never discover. The leg positioning creates unique angles that target pleasure zones in ways traditional positions simply can’t reach. When you nail the coordination, you’ll understand why certain couples keep this as their go-to position.
What Our Complete Guide Will Teach You:
Getting Into Position Like a Pro
- The step-by-step method to intertwine your legs without awkward fumbling
- How to find the perfect sitting distance for your body types
- The hand placement that gives you stability without killing your wrists
The Art of Spider Movement
- Why this position is all about grinding and rocking together
- How to coordinate your movements so you’re both contributing to the rhythm
- The hip angles that create the most intense sensations
Solving Every Challenge
- Arm strength building techniques that actually work
- How to take strategic breaks without losing momentum
- Modifications for different heights and flexibility levels
Advanced Variations You’ll Want to Try
- The Supported Spider for longer sessions
- Lazy Spider when you want it slow and sensual
- Smooth transitions into other seated positions
The Comfort and Safety Deep Dive
- Proper warm-up techniques that prepare your body
- When to pause and how to adjust without breaking the mood
- Communication strategies that keep you both comfortable and connected
Why This Position Creates Strong Sensations
- The mechanics behind seated positioning advantages
- How the unique angle targets specific pleasure zones
- Breathing techniques that help both partners stay coordinated
Complete Guide Available Next Week
Our detailed Spider Position guide launches next week with techniques, troubleshooting, and variations you won’t find anywhere else. We’ve spent months perfecting every detail so you get it right the first time.
Build Your Skills with These Positions:
- Lotus Position – Your training ground for Spider’s leg coordination and seated intimacy
- Cradle Position – Perfect the gentler face-to-face techniques before advancing
- Other face-to-face seated positions – Master the fundamentals of intimate eye contact and connection
Preview: What You’re Probably Wondering
Is this the same as the Spiderman Position? Nope – Spider has both partners sitting face-to-face with legs intertwined, while Spiderman is more of a kneeling-over-your-partner situation. Completely different energy.
How does it compare to other face-to-face positions? Think of it as Lotus Position’s more adventurous cousin. More challenging than basic face-to-face positions, but the payoff in sensation and connection is worth it.
Do we need to be super flexible? Not at all. It’s more about coordination and communication than being flexible. We’ll show you exactly how to modify it for your bodies.
What makes this different from Scissors? Both use leg intertwining, but Spider has that seated, face-to-face positioning that creates completely different sensations and allows for unique grinding patterns.
Is this actually worth the effort? Once you nail it, you’ll understand why some couples become regulars with this position. It delivers sensations you can’t get elsewhere.