10 Best Intimate Sex Positions That’ll Make You Both Melt

Look, we all love a good wild fuck session, but tonight? Tonight we’re talking about the kind of sex that makes your toes curl AND your heart skip a beat. The kind that leaves you both breathless and somehow more connected than before.

Intimate sex positions aren’t just about getting off (though trust me, you absolutely will). They’re about looking into each other’s eyes while you’re both coming undone, feeling every inch of skin pressed against yours, and creating the kind of connection that makes your heart race as much as your pulse.

These romantic sex positions turn sex into something deeper—where every touch matters, every breath syncs up, and you’re so tuned into each other that the rest of the world just melts away. Whether you’re trying to reconnect after a rough patch or you want to blow your partner’s mind with some serious intimacy, these best intimate positions will have you both completely hooked.

At Best Sexy Positions, we know that the hottest sex happens when you’re fully present with each other. These positions from our collection are designed to make you feel everything—and I mean everything.

For more ways to enhance your sexual experience through targeted benefits, explore our complete positions by benefits collection.

Face-to-Face Positions That’ll Leave You Breathless

Want to watch your partner’s face when they hit that perfect spot? These romantic sex positions for couples keep you connected eye-to-eye while the pleasure builds.

1. Lotus Position – The Mind-Melting Connection

From our BSP Face-to-Face collection, the Lotus Position is pure magic. This isn’t just sex—it’s like your souls are having a conversation while your bodies do the talking.

How you do it: You sit cross-legged while your partner climbs into your lap, facing you, wrapping their legs around your back. Now you’re locked together like puzzle pieces that were meant to fit.

You’re moving together like you share the same nervous system, breathing the same air, feeling every tiny shift and grind. The eye contact is so intense it’s almost overwhelming—but in the best possible way. Every movement hits different when you’re this locked together.

Pro tip: If you love the deep connection aspect of this position, you’ll also want to explore our guide to the best G-spot positions for combining intimacy with targeted pleasure.

Safety reality check:

• If your legs start going numb, just shift around—don’t try to be a hero
• Toss some pillows under whoever’s sitting to save those ankles
• Big weight difference? This might not be your position
• Speak up if anything feels off—sexy communication is the best communication

How to bring it up:

• “Want to try something really intimate where we can stare into each other’s eyes?”
• While you’re going: “God, I love watching your face” / “Does this angle work for you?”
• Check-ins: “Your legs okay? We can switch it up anytime.”

First-timer tips:

• Start here: Give it 5-10 minutes to get comfortable with the position
• Level up: Once you’re settled, try syncing your breathing—it’s weirdly hot
• Difficulty: You need some flexibility and core strength, but it’s worth it

Setup secrets:

• Stack 2-3 firm pillows under the sitting partner’s ankles—trust me
• Make sure you can both touch the floor for balance
• Keep it warm since you’ll be completely exposed to each other
• Have water nearby because this can turn into a marathon

When things go sideways:

• Leg cramps: Just straighten out for a sec while staying connected
• Weird angle: The receiving partner can lift up and resettle—happens to everyone
• Balance issues: Lean back against the headboard or wall for support

2. Face Off Position – Chair Sex That Actually Works

This face to face sex position gives you all the intimacy of Lotus but with way more comfort and control.

How you do it: One partner sits on the edge of the bed or a sturdy chair, the other climbs on top facing them. Knees bent, legs draped wherever feels good—this is your show.

Why it drives you both wild: The receiving partner becomes the director of their own pleasure show—controlling depth, speed, angle, the whole damn production. Meanwhile, you’re close enough to bite that lower lip, whisper filthy sweet things, and watch their face transform when you hit their perfect spot.

Safety check:

• Test that chair first—nothing kills the mood like crashing to the floor
• Keep your feet planted so you control the depth
• Take it slow when switching positions

Talk like this:

• Setup: “I want you on top where you can control everything”
• During: “Right there—don’t stop” / “Slower… make it last”
• Comfort: “My legs need a quick break” / “This angle is fucking perfect”

Setup that works:

• Chair specs: Sturdy, about 16-18 inches high, no armrests to get in the way
• Bed option: Sit right at the edge with feet flat on the floor
• Comfort hack: Small pillow behind the bottom partner’s back
• Mood: Soft lighting so you can actually see each other’s faces

3. Missionary Position – When Basic Becomes Beautiful

Don’t roll your eyes—intimate missionary positions from our BSP collection can be mind-blowing when you do them right.

How you actually do it: Forget everything you think you know about missionary. Instead of the top partner holding themselves up, they rest their full body against their partner. Skin on skin, chest to chest, completely melted together.

Why it’s secretly incredible: Full-body contact means you feel everything—their heartbeat, their breathing, every little tremor when they’re getting close. Plus, eye contact sex positions don’t get more intense than this.

Reality check:

• Don’t crush your partner—use those elbows to share the weight
• If they can’t breathe, you’re doing it wrong
• Pregnant? This needs modifications after the first trimester

Say this instead:

• “I want to feel every inch of you against me tonight”
• During: “I love watching you like this” / “Is this weight okay?”
• Adjustments: “Shift up just a little” / “Perfect—stay exactly there”

Getting it right the first time:

1. Start in regular missionary with arms supporting weight
2. Slowly lower your chest until you’re pressed together
3. Find that sweet spot where the weight feels good, not crushing
4. Focus on grinding instead of thrusting—it hits different
5. Look into each other’s eyes and breathe together

Problem solving:

• Too heavy: Keep those elbows working to support some weight
• Awkward angle: Slide a pillow under the bottom partner’s hips
• Can’t move much: That’s the point—focus on subtle grinding and connection

Slow-Burn Positions That Build the Heat

These slow sex positions are all about taking your sweet time and letting the tension build until you’re both desperate for more.

4. Coital Alignment Technique – Grinding That’ll Blow Your Mind

From our Missionary collection, this technique turns regular missionary into something that’ll have you seeing stars.

How it works: Start in missionary, but the top partner shifts higher up the body. Instead of the usual in-and-out, you’re grinding together—slow, deliberate, maddening.

Why it’s pure fire: Every inch of your bodies pressed together, moving in this hypnotic rhythm that builds tension like a slow-burning fuse. The clitoral stimulation is constant and maddening, building to those earth-shattering simultaneous orgasms that leave you both shaking.

This technique is also featured in our clitoral stimulation positions guide for couples who want to master this type of targeted pleasure.

Real talk about safety:

• This takes more core strength than regular missionary
• Take breaks if your back starts complaining
• If you’ve got lower back issues, maybe skip this one
• Communication is everything—keep talking about what feels good

How to talk through it:

• “Is this pressure working for you?” / “Should I adjust my weight?”
• “Fuck, I love being this close to you” / “This rhythm is perfect”
• “Tell me if you need me to move differently”

Setup secrets:

• The pillow trick: A firm 2-inch pillow under the bottom partner’s lower back
• Mattress matters: Firm surface works way better for all that grinding
• Slippery when wet: Extra lube makes the grinding smoother and hotter

5. Spooning Position – Cuddle-Fucking at Its Finest

Spooning sex positions from our BSP Side collection are perfect when you want to feel completely wrapped up in each other.

How you melt together: Both of you on your sides, same direction, with the back partner slipping inside from behind. It’s like the world’s most intimate hug with benefits.

Why it’s addictive: You’re wrapped in the most intimate cocoon imaginable, feeling completely safe while the back partner’s hands explore every curve and sensitive spot. Add whispered dirty talk directly in your ear and gentle neck kisses? You’ll be melting into each other completely.

Note: This position is also perfect for pregnant couples—check out our positions for pregnancy guide for more comfortable options during different trimesters.

Health stuff:

• Perfect for pregnancy after the first trimester
• Great if someone’s dealing with back pain or mobility stuff
• Watch out for the bottom arm going numb—shift around as needed
• Adjust those legs to prevent hip strain

Getting started right:

• First time: Start cuddling, let penetration happen naturally
• Finding the angle: Might take a few tries to get it just right—that’s normal
• Difficulty level: Super beginner-friendly, easy on the body

When it’s not working:

• Can’t find the angle: Bottom partner, bend that top knee toward your chest
• Arm going dead: Slip a small pillow under your head and neck
• Too shallow: Push those hips back a little—small adjustments make big differences

6. Side-by-Side Face-to-Face – Equal Partner Perfection

This intimate position for couples is all about being equals in every way—nobody’s on top, nobody’s in charge, just two people completely connected.

How you fit together: Lying on your sides, facing each other, legs tangled up however feels right to allow penetration. You’re literally puzzle pieces finding how you fit.

Why it’s relationship goals: Nobody’s dominating here—you’re making love as true equals. Takes teamwork to find the rhythm, which somehow makes everything hotter.

Talk it through:

• Setup: “Let’s try something where we’re complete equals”
• During: “Lift your leg just a bit?” / “This angle is working”
• Connection: “I love seeing your eyes this close” / “We’re moving perfectly together”

Setup tips:

• Space: Middle of the bed so you both have room to move those legs
• Comfort: Small pillow between legs if you need it
• Room setup: Make sure there’s space for all that leg positioning

Sacred Connection Positions

These positions take intimacy to a spiritual level, perfect for couples wanting to connect on every possible level.

7. Yab Yum Position – Sacred Tantric Connection

This is the crown jewel of tantric positions—where physical pleasure meets spiritual connection in the most profound way possible.

How to transcend together: Both partners sit cross-legged facing each other, with the receiving partner in the penetrating partner’s lap. But here’s what makes it different from Lotus—you focus on synchronized breathing, eye gazing, and energy exchange rather than movement.

You’re not just having sex; you’re sharing breath, energy, and consciousness. The minimal movement forces you to connect on levels most couples never experience. It’s meditation and lovemaking combined.

The tantric approach:

• Setup: “Want to try something that connects our souls, not just our bodies?”
• During: Focus on breathing together rather than talking
• Connection: Maintain eye contact and feel your energies merging

Making it sacred:

• Breathing: Inhale when your partner exhales, creating a circular breath
• Eye contact: Gaze softly into each other’s eyes without looking away
• Movement: Minimal—focus on energy and connection over physical stimulation
• Duration: Can be maintained for extended periods due to low physical demands

Setup for transcendence:

• Quiet space free from all distractions
• Comfortable cushions for extended sitting
• Soft lighting that doesn’t interfere with eye contact
• Allow plenty of time without rushing

Woman-on-Top Intimate Positions

These romantic positions for couples give the receiving partner control while maintaining deep intimacy.

8. Chair Seated Missionary Position – Lap-Based Intimacy

This position combines the control of woman-on-top with the face-to-face intimacy that makes missionary so connecting.

How to get cozy: The penetrating partner sits in a comfortable chair or on the edge of the bed. The receiving partner sits in their lap, facing them, in essentially a seated missionary position.

Why it’s perfectly intimate: You get complete eye contact, easy kissing access, and the receiving partner can control the pace while staying completely connected. It’s like missionary and chair sex had a beautiful baby.

Making it work:

• Setup: “I want to sit in your lap and look into your eyes while we move together”
• During: “I love controlling how close we are” / “Your hands feel amazing on my back”
• Connection: “Kiss me” / “Don’t stop looking at me like that”

Perfect setup:

• Sturdy chair without armrests that might get in the way
• Both partners’ feet should be able to touch the ground for stability
• Pillows behind the sitting partner’s back for comfort during longer sessions

9. Modified Intimate Cowgirl – Connection Over Control

From our BSP Cowgirl collection, this version prioritizes intimacy over athletic riding.

How to make it intimate: Instead of the typical upright cowgirl, the receiving partner leans forward, chest-to-chest with their partner. This creates constant skin contact and easy access for kissing.

Why it’s emotionally connecting: You maintain all the control benefits of cowgirl but add the intimacy of full-body contact. The grinding motion and constant eye contact make it feel more like making love than having sex.

Looking for more positions that put you in complete control? Our dominant/submissive positions collection explores power dynamics in intimate settings.

Making it intimate:

• Leaning position: Receiving partner leans forward to rest chest against their partner
• Movement: Focus on grinding and rocking rather than bouncing
• Eye contact: Maintain constant visual connection
• Hands: Both partners free to caress faces, necks, and backs

Setup for connection:

• Bed height: Standard bed height works best for knee comfort
• Pillow support: Place pillow under penetrating partner’s head for better eye contact
• Pace: Keep movements slow and deliberate for maximum intimacy

Standing Intimate Positions

These romantic positions add excitement while maintaining emotional connection.

10. Standing Missionary with Wall Support – Vertical Romance

This takes the classic missionary intimacy and adds the excitement of standing, creating an incredibly romantic combination.

How to make it magical: The receiving partner stands with their back against a wall, lifting one leg to wrap around their partner’s waist. The penetrating partner faces them, creating the same intimate connection as missionary but vertical.

You get all the eye contact, kissing, and full-body connection of missionary, but with the added passion and urgency of standing. It’s like missionary got a romantic movie makeover.

Making it work:

• Setup: “Want to try missionary standing up? I want to look into your eyes while we’re pressed against the wall”
• During: “I love how close we are like this” / “Your eyes are incredible”
• Connection: “Kiss me” / “Don’t stop looking at me”

Perfect execution:

• Wall support is essential for the receiving partner
• Both partners maintain constant eye contact
• Focus on grinding and slow movements rather than intense thrusting
• Use hands to explore each other’s faces and bodies

Setup essentials:

• Smooth, sturdy wall for back support
• Non-slip flooring for safety
• Height compatibility works best
• Privacy for extended intimate moments

Making Every Position Hotter and More Connected

Setting the Scene Like a Pro

Create the right atmosphere:

• Lighting game: Candles or dim lights create warmth and hide nothing
• Soundtrack: Slow, sexy music helps you both relax and get lost in each other
• Distractions: Put those phones away—tonight is about you two
• Luxury touches: Silk sheets, massage oil, whatever makes it feel special

Communication That Actually Turns You On

Make talking sexy:

• Appreciation: “You feel incredible,” “I love how close we are right now”
• Gratitude: “Thank you for letting me touch you like this”
• Questions that matter: “What do you need?” “How can I make this better for you?”
• Direction that’s hot: “I love watching your face,” “Your skin feels amazing”

Physical Connection That Goes Beyond the Obvious

Maximize every touch:

• Breathing together: Match your rhythms—it’s surprisingly intense
• Eye contact: Even quick glances during pleasure make everything more real
• Touch everything: Use your whole hands, not just fingertips
• Slow down: Taking your time makes every sensation more intense

The Science Behind Intimate Connection

There’s actual science backing up why these positions feel so incredible. Research shows that intimate physical contact triggers the release of oxytocin, often called the “love hormone,” which strengthens emotional bonds between partners during romantic attachment. This hormone surge during intimate moments literally rewires your brain for deeper connection.

Beyond the emotional benefits, studies have found that regular intimate activity provides significant physical health benefits, including reduced stress hormone levels, improved cardiovascular health, and enhanced immune system function. So when you’re taking time to connect intimately, you’re not just strengthening your relationship—you’re boosting your overall health too.

The After-Party Matters Too

Don’t rush the ending:

• Stay connected physically—keep touching and holding each other
• Talk about what just happened—what felt amazing, what you want to try again
• Express appreciation—”that was incredible,” “I love being close to you like this”
• Keep some physical contact as you both come back to earth

Safety and Health – The Unsexy Stuff That Keeps the Sexy Stuff Safe

Basic Safety That Everyone Should Know

Before you try anything new:

• Talk about comfort levels and any physical limitations—it’s not mood-killing, it’s considerate
• Have a way to communicate if something needs to change
• Start slow and build up—there’s no rush
• Keep good lube handy—it makes everything better

Physical health reality:

• Stop immediately if either person feels pain—pleasure only, always
• Be aware of positions that might strain joints or muscles
• Consider modifications if you’re pregnant or dealing with mobility issues
• Stay hydrated, especially during longer sessions

When to Get Professional Help

Talk to healthcare providers if:

• You’re experiencing ongoing pain during or after sex
• You need guidance about sex during pregnancy
• You have health conditions that might affect sexual activity
• You’re having relationship communication challenges that affect intimacy

The Bottom Line: Great Sex Starts with Connection

Intimate sex positions aren’t just about trying something different—they’re about creating the kind of connection that makes great relationships even better. These romantic sex positions for couples give you ways to be vulnerable, build trust, and experience pleasure that goes way beyond the physical.

The secret isn’t just picking the right position—it’s approaching your time together with intention, presence, and genuine care for how your partner feels, both physically and emotionally.

At Best Sexy Positions, we believe the hottest romantic positions are the ones where you feel most connected to your partner. Use our suggestions as jumping-off points, but always prioritize talking to each other, getting clear consent, and making sure you’re both having an amazing time.

Whether you’re trying face to face sex positions for the first time or rediscovering why slow sex positions can be so intense, remember: it’s about creating moments that bring you closer and make your connection even stronger.

BSP certified: We don’t just write about these positions – we’ve researched them thoroughly, tested them extensively (you’re welcome), and curated this guide based on real feedback. This isn’t theoretical sex advice – it’s battle-tested pleasure knowledge from people who actually enjoy sex a lot.

FAQ: Your Most Asked Questions About Intimate Sex Positions

What’s the difference between intimate positions and regular sex positions?

Intimate positions prioritize emotional connection and eye contact over athletic performance or extreme pleasure intensity. They’re designed to make you feel closer to your partner through sustained contact, synchronized breathing, and face-to-face connection. Regular positions might focus more on specific physical sensations or orgasm achievement, while intimate positions are about the whole experience of bonding with your partner.

Which intimate position is best for beginners who want to try something romantic?

Start with Spooning or modified Missionary with full body contact. Both are physically easy, require no special flexibility, and create immediate intimacy through skin-to-skin contact. Spooning feels safe and protective, while intimate missionary lets you maintain eye contact without demanding positions. Once you’re comfortable with the slower pace and emotional intensity, you can progress to positions like Lotus or Face Off.

How do you make intimate positions feel less awkward if you’re not used to eye contact during sex?

This is totally normal—intense eye contact can feel vulnerable at first. Start with brief glances rather than sustained staring, and focus on your partner’s pleasure expressions rather than feeling like you’re “performing.” You can also begin with positions like Spooning where there’s intimacy without direct eye contact, then gradually work up to face-to-face positions. Remember, the awkwardness usually disappears once you see how much more connected you both feel.

Can intimate positions still lead to intense orgasms, or are they just about the emotional connection?

Hell yes, they can be incredibly intense! Positions like Coital Alignment Technique are specifically designed for mind-blowing clitoral stimulation, while Lotus and Cowgirl can provide deep, grinding sensations that build to explosive climaxes. The slower pace often makes the buildup more intense, and the emotional connection can make orgasms feel more powerful and satisfying. Many couples report their best orgasms happen during intimate, connected sex.

Are these positions suitable for quickies, or do they require a lot of time?

Most intimate positions work best when you’re not rushing, but several can adapt to shorter sessions. Face Off and Chair positions can work for passionate quickies with the right setup, and Standing positions like Missionary with Wall Support are naturally suited to spontaneous encounters. However, you’ll get the most emotional and physical benefit when you have time to really savor the connection and let the intimacy build naturally.