How to Go From Good Gay Sex to ‘Holy Shit, Do That Again!

We’re Putting Together Something You’ll Actually Want to Read

Honey, most gay sex advice is either written by straight people who think they know our business, or it’s so dry it makes WebMD look sexy. We’re creating something different – honest guidance from people who’ve navigated everything from late-blooming coming out stories to the horrors of Grindr small talk that somehow leads to great sex.

This guide covers everything from “what the hell am I supposed to do with my hands?” to techniques that’ll have your man calling in sick to work the next day. Real talk from queens who’ve been there, done that, and lived to tell the embarrassing stories.

Here’s What We’re Covering:

Getting Your Head Right

• Dealing with internalized shame that can kill your vibe
• How to ask for what you want without sounding like a bad porn script
• Finding your authentic sexual self instead of performing what you think gay sex should look like

The Practical Stuff Nobody Mentions

• Douching real talk – what actually works vs. what’s overkill
• The great lube debate: why water-based isn’t always your friend
• Safety that doesn’t make you feel like you’re in health class

Techniques That Work for Real Bodies

• Sexy gay positions that don’t require a gym membership or yoga certification (ok maybe 1 or 2)
• Prostate play that doesn’t feel like you’re mining for gold
• Building rhythm instead of jackhammering and hoping for the best

Community-Specific Navigation

• Top, bottom, vers, side – finding your truth without the pressure
• Hookup culture vs. relationship intimacy (and why both are valid)
• Surviving gay death and keeping 10-year relationships spicy

When Reality Hits

• Size queen culture and learning to work with what you’ve got
• Dealing with performance anxiety in a community obsessed with sexual prowess
• Recovery strategies when you want to be a total power bottom

Leveling Up Your Game

• Toys that enhance your experience without turning your bedroom into a hardware store
• Exploring kink safely in a community where everyone’s an expert
• Creating experiences that make you both forget about that hot guy from Instagram

Quick Answers to What You’re Really Wondering:

What if I came out later and feel behind everyone else? Babe, half of us are still figuring it out – experience doesn’t have an expiration date.

How do I stop comparing myself to porn stars and Instagram twinks? We address this toxic comparison culture head-on with reality checks that actually help.

Is there life beyond anal for gay men? Absolutely – we celebrate the full spectrum of queer male pleasure without judgment.

How do I know if I’m good at this or just being nice? When he starts making sounds that would get you both kicked out of a library.

What about keeping passion alive when you’ve been together since the Obama administration? We’ve got strategies that work for couples who’ve survived multiple Pride month outfit changes together.

Coming Soon: Your Confidence Glow-Up

This complete guide arrives soon with everything you need to feel confident and capable between the sheets. Until then, dive into our curated collections for specific scenarios – whether you’re prepping for a first date or celebrating your anniversary.

And if you want to master particular moves, our detailed position guides break down exactly how to make each technique work for your unique situation and body type.

Time to become the lover you’ve always wanted to be, darling.