How to Use Sex Toys Together Without the Awkward Fumbling

We’re Cooking Up Something Special

Here’s the thing — most couples want to explore toys together but get stuck on the “how do we even start this conversation?” part. We’re creating a guide covering all of it: from those first slightly awkward chats to the moment when toys become as natural in your bedroom as your favorite playlist. This isn’t another boring how-to manual — it’s the real talk you need to turn curiosity into genuinely exciting shared experiences.

What This Complete Guide Will Deliver:

Having That First Conversation (Without Making It Weird)

• How to bring up toys when you’re feeling curious but nervous
• Reading your partner’s vibe and moving at a pace right for both of you
• Turning “um, so I was thinking…” into genuine excitement about exploring together

Shopping Like Pros Who Know Their Stuff

• Details on choosing your first couples toys (spoiler: it’s not the obvious things)
• How to research without falling down a rabbit hole of overwhelming options
• Creating a wishlist getting you both genuinely excited to experiment

Safety Stuff That Doesn’t Kill the Mood

• Cleaning routines that become as automatic as brushing your teeth
• When sharing is caring and when you need your own gear
• Making safety feel sexy instead of clinical

Making Toys Feel Like They Belong

• Weaving toys into foreplay so smoothly your partner will wonder where you learned that move
• Using toys during different types of intimacy without it feeling forced
• Enhancing what you already love instead of replacing it

Ready to start building your foundation? Our complete guides collection covers everything from communication to confidence-building techniques that’ll serve you well in any bedroom adventure.

Talking During and After (The Good Stuff)

• Giving feedback that makes your partner want to keep experimenting
• What to do when you discover something that drives one of you wild
• Building on those “holy shit, do that again” moments

When Things Don’t Go According to Plan

• Handling the reality that not every toy works for every couple
• What to do when enthusiasm levels don’t match up perfectly
• Keeping things fun even when something feels awkward or doesn’t click

Sneak Peek: What You’re Really Wondering

How do I bring this up without my partner thinking I’m bored with our sex life? Frame it as adding sprinkles to an already delicious ice cream sundae — you’re not fixing anything, you’re making something good even better.

What if my partner thinks toys mean they’re not satisfying me? Reassure them that toys are like any other fun addition to your relationship — massage oil doesn’t mean you don’t like their hands, right?

Should we shop together or should I surprise them? Shopping together builds anticipation and ensures you both get something you’re actually curious about, reducing those “what the hell is this?” moments.

What if we try something and it feels completely awkward? Welcome to being human! Everything feels strange the first time — remember learning to drive? Start slow, laugh about the weird moments, and focus on what feels good.

How do we keep things clean without turning into germaphobic weirdos? Simple routines that become second nature, plus knowing when to use barriers makes sharing worry-free for everyone involved.

This Guide is Almost Ready!

We’re putting the final touches on this detailed tutorial that covers everything couples actually want to know. Ready to explore more connection techniques? Check out our How to Make a Woman Cum guide for techniques that create the perfect foundation for adding toys to your repertoire.

The BSP difference? We don’t just tell you what to do — we help you figure out what works for your unique relationship dynamic.