How to Ride Dick: The Moves That’ll Make You His Sexual Obsession

The Real Reason Most People Suck at Riding (And How You’ll Be Different)

Picture this: you’re straddling someone who’s looking up at you like you’re a goddess, their hands gripping your hips as you move in ways that make their breath catch. That expression of pure desire mixed with helplessness? That’s what happens when you know how to ride dick.

Most people bounce around randomly, hoping something magical will happen. They treat it like cardio instead of the art form it is. But when you understand that riding is about precision, rhythm, and owning your pleasure while driving theirs, everything changes.

The first time I really mastered this, my partner’s reaction was so intense they grabbed my wrists and said, “Where did you learn to do that?” The power in that moment – knowing I could create that level of desperate need – was addictive.

Here’s what separates good riders from unforgettable ones: you’re not just moving your body, you’re conducting their pleasure. Every hip roll, every change in pressure, every pause creates anticipation that builds until they’re practically trembling beneath you.

Ready to become the kind of lover someone can’t stop thinking about?

Essential Safety & Health Considerations

Before we dive into the delicious details, let’s cover what keeps everyone safe and comfortable:

Talk First, Ride Later: Discuss what you both want, any physical concerns, and boundaries. This conversation is incredibly arousing – there’s something electric about telling someone exactly what you plan to do to them.

Your Body Knows Best: If something feels wrong, stop immediately. Pleasure should never come with pain or discomfort. When you feel good, they feel good – it’s that simple.

Slip and Slide: Keep quality lube nearby. Even when you’re naturally ready, extra lubrication makes everything smoother and prevents uncomfortable friction.

Warm Up to Heat Up: Always start gently and build intensity. This protects you both from injury and lets you discover what drives you wild together.

Why Dick Riding Creates Such Intense Psychological Heat

When you’re on top, you’re not just changing positions – you’re flipping the entire power dynamic. Understanding this psychology makes everything more intense.

Visual Feast: They get an unobstructed view of your body moving, your face showing pleasure, your complete confidence. It’s like being the star of their most intimate fantasy, except it’s happening right now.

Sweet Surrender: Many partners are used to leading during sex. When you take control, watching them surrender to your rhythm creates psychological intensity that often hits harder than physical sensations.

Pleasure Puppeteer: You decide the pace, depth, and pressure. You control when they get relief and when they have to wait. That level of sexual authority is intoxicating for everyone involved.

A partner once told me, “Watching you take exactly what you wanted while I could only hold on was the most erotic thing I’d ever experienced.” That’s the psychological power of confident riding.

Master These 4 Core Dick Riding Techniques

1. The Grind That Makes Them Weak

Real grinding isn’t just back-and-forth movement – it’s about creating consistent, maddening pressure that hits all the right spots for both of you.

Perfect your technique: With them deep inside you, move your hips in slow, deliberate circles. Your clit should connect with their pubic bone with each rotation. Think of drawing lazy figure-eights with your hips while maintaining that delicious contact.

What changes everything: Lean forward and press your palms against their chest. This angle ensures clitoral stimulation for you while creating friction that makes them grip the sheets. The combination is electric.

Advanced moves: Switch between circular motions and side-to-side movements. The unpredictability keeps them guessing what sensation comes next, building anticipation that’s almost torturous.

2. Bouncing That Actually Works (Without Destroying Your Thighs)

Most people exhaust themselves trying to lift their entire body weight. The secret is leverage and momentum, not just muscle power.

Smart bouncing: Support some weight on your hands – either on their chest or behind you on their thighs. Use your legs to control movement but let gravity help. Think controlled descent rather than constant lifting.

Rhythm mastery: Begin with slow, deep movements that let you feel every inch. Build speed gradually, focusing on consistency over frantic bouncing. Steady rhythm trumps chaotic speed every time.

Endurance hack: Alternate between bouncing and grinding every few minutes. Your muscles get a break while the intensity continues. Your future self will thank you.

3. The Intimate Lean-and-Ride

This technique combines grinding with full-body contact that amplifies every sensation.

How to master it: Lower yourself so your torso presses against theirs, supporting your weight on your knees. Wrap your arms around them or brace beside their head.

The movement: Focus on sliding motions – long, slow hip movements that maintain deep penetration while creating friction along their entire length.

Why it’s addictive: Skin-to-skin contact intensifies everything. You can kiss deeply, whisper desires, or maintain eye contact while completely controlling their pleasure.

4. The Power Position (For Maximum Control)

This is for moments when you want to show them exactly who’s running the show while hitting angles that make you both see stars.

Command presence: Sit tall with perfect posture, shoulders back, hands on your hips or running through your hair. You’re not just riding – you’re claiming your power.

Control technique: Use deliberate, measured movements that showcase your authority. Slow, deep grinds followed by faster bounces, then back to grinding. Every change is your decision.

Mental domination: Look directly into their eyes and tell them your plans. “I’m going to ride you until you can’t think straight” has incredible psychological impact when delivered with confidence.

Equipment & Setup for Success

Surface Strategy: A firm mattress provides the best support. If your bed is too soft, consider the floor with pillows for comfort – you want stability, not sinking.

Pillow Power: Keep pillows handy for knee support or to prop up their head for better viewing angles. A pillow under their lower back can improve penetration angles.

Hair Game: Long hair gets in the way fast. Tie it up or clip it back so you can focus on pleasure instead of constantly moving strands from your face.

Temperature Control: Keep the room slightly cool – you’ll both work up heat, and being too warm kills the mood faster than anything.

Essentials Within Reach: Water, tissues, lube, and any toys you might want should be easily accessible. Breaking rhythm to search for something ruins the flow.

The 6 Best Riding Positions From Our Collection

1. Cowgirl Position – Your Foundation

This classic position is where confident riders are born. When done right, basic cowgirl creates experiences that ruin people for ordinary sex.

Perfect setup: Straddle them with knees beside their hips. Keep your spine straight, shoulders relaxed. This isn’t just physical positioning – it’s claiming your sexual authority.

Technique excellence: Start with slow grinding to find your rhythm, then add controlled bouncing. Use your hands to touch yourself, support your movement, or simply show off your confidence.

Why it works: They get a perfect view, you get total control, and your clit has easy access for dual stimulation. It’s psychological and physical intensity combined.

Get every detail right: Cowgirl Position

2. Reverse Cowgirl – The View That Ruins Them

Turn around and create a visual that will live in their fantasies forever. The angle isn’t just different – it hits entirely new spots.

Master the position: Face away and use their thighs or the bed for support. A slight forward lean creates the perfect angle for both of you.

Advanced technique: Reach back and play with their balls while maintaining rhythm. The combination of unexpected touch, that perfect view, and different angle will make them lose control.

Pro enhancement: Perfect position for toy integration or having them reach around for clitoral play while you control everything else.

Perfect your reverse game: Reverse Cowgirl Position

3. Amazon Position – Total Domination

This advanced position puts you in complete command while creating penetration so deep it reaches places they didn’t know existed.

Domination setup: They lie back with knees to chest while you squat over them. You’re literally towering above them, taking everything you want.

Intensity factor: The angle gets you so deep while keeping you in total control of every movement. The visual of you dominating from above adds psychological intensity.

Technique tip: Start slowly to adjust to the depth, then use controlled movements to hit exactly the spots that drive you both wild.

Claim your throne: Amazon Position

4. Betty Rocker Position – Addictive Grinding

This position creates the kind of sustained friction that builds to explosive releases.

Rock technique: Lean forward with hands on their chest, focusing on hip rocking rather than bouncing. Think rhythmic grinding that never stops.

The heat: Constant contact and grinding motion builds and builds until you’re both desperate for release.

Perfect for: Marathon sessions, slow builds, and the kind of sustained friction that makes you both desperate for release.

Master the rhythm: Betty Rocker Position

5. Lotus Position – Soul-Deep Connection

When you want riding combined with incredible intimacy, lotus creates connection that goes beyond physical pleasure.

Intimate setup: They sit cross-legged while you straddle and wrap your legs around their waist. Face-to-face, bodies pressed together, moving as one.

Connection technique: Focus on subtle grinding and rocking rather than dramatic movements. This is about sustained pleasure and emotional intensity.

Why it’s special: Eye contact, deep kissing capability, and full-body connection creates intensity that hits you both physically and emotionally.

Connect completely: Lotus Position

6. Lap Dance Position – Performance and Pleasure

Transform any chair into your stage for riding that makes them feel like they’ve won the lottery.

Stage setup: They sit in a sturdy chair while you straddle their lap facing away. Support your weight with feet on the floor for maximum control.

The show: Use deliberate movements that showcase your body while creating incredible sensations. This is riding as pure seduction.

Advanced performance: Lean forward with hands on their knees, giving them an incredible view while changing the angle for deeper sensations.

Own the stage: Lap Dance Position

Your Complete Step-by-Step Mastery Guide

Step 1: Set the Sexual Stage

Communication isn’t just preparation – it’s foreplay. Tell them you’re taking control tonight. Watch their eyes change as anticipation builds.

Mental preparation: Take a moment to embrace your sexual power. Confidence is magnetic and makes everything more intense.

Physical readiness: Hair secured, essentials nearby, lighting adjusted to whatever makes you feel most powerful.

Step 2: Build Anticipation

Use foreplay to establish your dominance. Kiss them deeply, explore their body, make it clear you’re orchestrating everything tonight.

Tease ruthlessly: Straddle them without penetration first. Grind against them through clothing. Watch their face as they realize you’re completely in charge.

Use your voice: Tell them your plans. “I’m going to ride you until you forget everything else” whispered in their ear is incredibly powerful.

Step 3: Take Position with Authority

Climb on top with deliberate confidence. Every movement should communicate that you know exactly what you’re doing.

Penetration mastery: Guide them inside slowly while maintaining eye contact. This isn’t rushed – it’s savored. Watch their expression as you take them completely.

Establish dominance: Once they’re fully inside, pause. Let them feel your control. You decide everything from this moment.

Step 4: Find Your Rhythm and Command It

Start with deliberate movements that establish your pace. This isn’t about speed – it’s about creating rhythm that builds irresistible tension.

Variation mastery: Switch between grinding, bouncing, and rocking. Unpredictability keeps them on edge while preventing fatigue.

Stay connected: “Tell me how this feels” or “I love watching you lose control” – talking while you move makes everything more intense. Research on sexual communication confirms that couples who communicate openly during intimacy report significantly higher satisfaction levels and stronger relationship bonds.

Step 5: Use Your Hands Strategically

Your hands create multiple pleasure points simultaneously.

Self-pleasure: Touch your breasts, run fingers through your hair, or stimulate your clit while maintaining rhythm. Watching you pleasure yourself while riding is incredibly arousing.

Partner play: Explore their chest, guide their hands where you want them, or reach behind to play with their balls while you ride.

Step 6: Master Seductive Communication

Combine physical control with verbal intensity:

• “You feel incredible inside me”
• “I love seeing what I do to you”
• “You belong to me right now”
• “You can’t come until I say so”

Step 7: Keep Them Guessing

Seamless switching: Move between positions and techniques without losing rhythm or connection.

Enhancement integration: Incorporate toys that boost pleasure for both of you. A bullet vibrator pressed against your clit while you ride creates dual stimulation that’s explosive. Vibrating cock rings add sensations for both partners, while wand massagers can be positioned for hands-free clitoral stimulation. Learn how to use sex toys together for experiences that take riding to the next level.

Power dynamics: Control their movements, pin their hands, or make them ask for what they want.

Step 8: Build to Explosive Completion

Read their signals: Watch their responses to control the pace and intensity.

Your pleasure matters: Use techniques that work for you – grinding for clitoral stimulation or bouncing for internal pressure.

The finale: When you’re both ready, release control completely. Ride with abandon and experience mutual explosion.

Building Confidence: From Hesitant to Goddess

Start Where You Feel Powerful

Begin with positions that make you feel confident and sexy. Build from that foundation rather than jumping into advanced techniques.

Progression approach: Master basic cowgirl grinding before attempting complex positions. Confidence builds through successful experiences.

Body celebration: Your partner wants to be intimate with you exactly as you are. Focus on pleasure creation rather than imagined imperfections.

Skill Development Timeline

• Weeks 1-2: Master grinding and gentle bouncing in cowgirl
• Weeks 3-4: Add reverse cowgirl and rhythm variations
• Week 5+: Explore advanced positions and complex techniques

Confidence Catalysts

• Lighting control: Start with whatever lighting makes you feel most confident
• Positive internal dialogue: Replace doubt with affirmation about your growing skills
• Sensation focus: Concentrate on how movements feel rather than appearance concerns
• Power embrace: Remember you control their pleasure – use that authority

Advanced Techniques That Create Unforgettable Experiences

The Anticipation Game

Just as they approach climax, stop all movement. Lock eyes and smile knowingly. The psychological impact combined with physical denial intensifies their eventual release dramatically.

Rhythm Variation Mastery

Dramatically vary speed within sessions. Begin slowly, build to medium intensity, accelerate to fast and intense, then return to slow. Constant variation keeps their nervous system in suspense.

Internal Control Technique

Use your internal muscles to squeeze while riding. The combination of external movement and internal pressure creates sensations they’ve never experienced.

The Edge Tease

Pull almost completely off, then slide back down slowly. The visual combined with changing sensations creates intensity that drives them wild.

Problem-Solving: When Things Don’t Go Perfectly

“I Get Exhausted Too Quickly”

Root issue: Using muscle power instead of leverage and momentum.

Solutions:

• Support weight on your hands (their chest or behind you)
• Switch between grinding and bouncing every 2-3 minutes
• Use positions like Betty Rocker that require less leg strength
• Take connection breaks while staying physically joined

Prevention: Build strength gradually and always warm up properly.

“I Can’t Find the Right Rhythm”

Root issue: Starting too fast or trying to match unrealistic expectations.

Solutions:

• Begin much slower than feels natural
• Let your partner guide your hips initially
• Focus on consistency over speed
• Communicate constantly about what feels good

Practice approach: Try rhythmic movements outside sexual contexts to build muscle memory.

“I Feel Self-Conscious”

Root issue: Focusing on appearance rather than pleasure and connection.

Solutions:

• Start with positions offering more coverage (leaning forward)
• Use flattering lighting initially
• Focus on sensation rather than appearance
• Remember they’re experiencing incredible pleasure, not critiquing

Mindset shift: Your partner chose intimacy with you because they find you attractive.

“We Keep Losing Connection”

Root issue: Usually angle problems, insufficient lubrication, or movements too large.

Solutions:

• Use more lubrication for smoother movement
• Focus on grinding and smaller movements
• Adjust angle by leaning forward or backward
• Ensure proper alignment before beginning

Prevention: Extended foreplay ensures natural lubrication and proper arousal.

“I Can’t Reach Climax While Riding”

Root issue: Most people need clitoral stimulation, which isn’t automatic in all positions.

Solutions:

• Use grinding motions that stimulate against their pubic bone
• Incorporate manual stimulation or toys
• Try positions like Betty Rocker that maximize clitoral contact
• Focus on pleasure without pressure for specific outcomes

Enhancement: Combine internal and external stimulation for more intense experiences.

“My Partner Isn’t Responding as Expected”

Root issue: Every body responds differently to various techniques and rhythms.

Solutions:

• Ask directly: “Do you like this pace?” “Should I change anything?”
• Watch their breathing, sounds, and physical responses
• Experiment with different approaches in the same session
• Remember good communication is arousing

Reality check: What works with one person may not work with another – and that’s completely normal.

Taking Your Skills to the Next Level

Complementary Technique Integration

While mastering riding, enhance your overall repertoire with related techniques:

• Oral mastery: Perfect your blowjob techniques for foreplay that makes riding even more intense.
• Enhanced communication: Learn how to talk dirty to add verbal dominance to your physical control.

Scenario-Specific Approaches

• Morning intimacy: Focus on gentle grinding and intimate positions like Lotus
• Spontaneous encounters: Master quick, intense techniques for unplanned passion
• Extended sessions: Use sustainable positions and energy-conserving approaches

Communication Enhancement

• Pre-intimacy: Discuss desires, boundaries, and new things to explore
• During connection: Use verbal and non-verbal cues to guide each other
• Post-intimacy: Share what felt amazing and what you’d like to try next

This ongoing dialogue creates better experiences and deeper connection over time.

The Best Sexy Positions Bottom Line

Mastering how to ride dick transforms you from someone who goes through motions to someone who creates experiences people can’t forget. When you combine technique with confidence and communication, you become the kind of lover who leaves partners thinking about you for days.

These techniques aren’t theoretical – they’re proven methods that consistently create the kind of pleasure that makes people beg for more. Whether you’re starting from scratch or perfecting existing skills, these positions and approaches give you everything needed to become unforgettable.

BSP Certified: At Best Sexy Positions, we test every technique personally to ensure they work in real bedrooms with real bodies. Master these riding skills tonight and watch how your partner looks at you change completely.

Ready to take your skills even further? Explore our complete collection of technique guides for mastering every aspect of incredible sex.

Frequently Asked Questions About Dick Riding

What’s the best position for someone new to being on top?

Classic cowgirl gives you complete control over everything – depth, speed, and angle – while maintaining eye contact. Start with grinding rather than bouncing to build confidence and endurance. Once you master the basics, progress to reverse cowgirl or Amazon position.

How do I avoid getting tired so quickly?

Use leverage instead of pure muscle power. Support some weight on your hands, switch between grinding and bouncing frequently, and focus on controlled movements rather than speed. Consistent rhythm creates more pleasure than frantic bouncing anyway.

Can I make them climax just from riding?

Absolutely! Many people find woman-on-top positions intensely stimulating both visually and physically. The key is movement variation, good rhythm, and attention to their responses. Combine grinding, bouncing, and internal squeezing while maintaining psychological intensity.

What if I feel awkward about being so visible?

Start with dimmed lighting or positions offering more body contact, like the lean-and-ride technique. Remember they chose intimacy with you because they find you attractive exactly as you are. Focus on how movements feel rather than appearance concerns. Confidence grows through positive experiences.

How does riding work if I’m plus-size?

Your curves are advantages, not obstacles! Use positions that distribute weight well, like leaning forward or choosing seated options like Lap Dance. Focus on grinding and rocking motions that feel good for everyone involved. Your partner is attracted to your body exactly as it is.

Should I talk while riding or stay quiet?

Definitely communicate! Words while riding are incredibly powerful because you’re already in the dominant position. Try “You feel amazing inside me” or “I love watching what I do to you.” Communication also helps you both understand what’s working.

What’s the difference between grinding and bouncing?

Grinding involves hip movements in circles or back-and-forth while staying deep, providing excellent clitoral stimulation and consistent pressure. Bouncing is up-and-down motion that varies depth and creates different sensations. The best riders use both and switch between them.

How do I know if I’m doing it right?

Watch their reactions – are they moaning, gripping you, maintaining eye contact? Also pay attention to your own pleasure – if it feels good for you, you’re probably on the right track. Don’t hesitate to ask “Does this feel good?” or “What do you want?” Communication enhances everything.